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Self forgiveness

HopefullyHangingOn
HopefullyHangingOn

I was wondering if any advice on forgiveness of self for the destruction and loneliness that our own actions have caused us. I have a great deal of remorse over past actions and decisions that have greatly contributed to my current situation and emotional state. I can't seem to move past the self loathing that keeps me filled with the loneliness. In many ways, I don't feel that I deserve it. I know in order to get to the point of being fully present in my life to be a good friend and mother, I have to move forward. Doing so with the guilt is a hourly struggle for me. Just wondering if anyone can relate and advise. Thanks!

gettingitstraight
gettingitstraight
sometimes loneliness is never ending and even when I am lonely I sometimes wonder why I am where I am now I have learned one thing sometimes its ok to be lonely yes when you alone you always think what could I do different what did I do to put myself here the problem is you have to train yourself to not look back.

I fell into a deep hole after my divorce separation my now ex wife cheated on me with my best friend and then in an argument with my now ex over grounding our kids and how we handle it between houses my ex best friend and I got into a fight because he felt the need to be chivalrous and come to the aid of his girlfriend when it had nothing to do with him. after that he told a crapload of lies and I lost all my friends cause of course he had a big mouth and made it out to be me.

anyhow part of my healing process was to find something I used to love to do and embrace it again. for me it was watching baseball I used to love it, that summer I think I watched over 100 games and it helped me heal, now on a side note that was 5 years ago and I have maybe only 5 games since but it helped me move forward then
Jillsaundars
Jillsaundars
I agree easy to get into self blame, I think it's more about acceptance. A series of steps led to this point, what's done is done.

If you really want to think about self blame and making amends then the twelve step fellowship will support you in that process that.

I heard in church once that forgiveness is a decision, you need to really think it through and come to the conclusion to forgive yourself. Once you've done that you need to ban yourself from dwelling on ideas that make you feel guilty.

Focus on distracting yourself with things that make you happy or interest you.

Eckert tolle on YouTube talks about mindfulness and breaking free from our thinking, it's just a story... It doesn't have to be who we are now in the present