Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hi everyone! Recently I've been dealing with a lot of insecurity issues that I posted about on here a while ago. I have slowly been becoming an insecure, needy person, someone I never wanted to be and it's only gotten worse since I returned to college last week...
During the entire expanse of my lengthy winter break, I had been texting a boy (let's call him Chris) that I have developed a huge crush on after a few dates. Chris is an extremely go with the flow individual and doesn't seem to place too much seriousness into any one person or thing. Despite this, he can be caring and attentive on occasion. He is very playful and fun to be around and eases my spirits when I feel down. However... (and this is where things start to turn bad) he really only seems to pay attention to me when I am interested in sex. It is great half of the time with Chris (up until we actually have sex) and then afterwards I get ignored and turned down by him until he wants to see me again. It's so confusing to me because I have been nothing to him but kind, caring, and affectionate. Despite the horrible loneliness he brings me, I can't seem to break things off with Chris because I know that without him, I will hate myself again as I always have when I don't have male attention. If anyone has any advice, it's much needed and appreciated! I feel so hurt and lonely.
Andrew was a boyfriend I had when I was in my early 20s. I think 21 or 22. he had a job, he was an electrician. I was a secretary. I flatted in town, he flatted in Petone.
He would see me on the weekends. he instigated all visits. I didn't because I didn't want to look pushy. I would spend all week agonising over missing him. We'd spend time on the weekends... and then I'd go back into town, and the week would be hell..
I couldn't take it in the end. I ended somehow breaking up with him by pushing him to say he loved me. He didn't say it so I said 'we may as well part then'... dumb dumb dumb!
OMG I was dumb.
So yeah. Anxiety.
go to a doctor, get some antianxiety medication. Sort the anxiety out, because then you can see more clearly how to feel about this guy. Much more clearly. It will buy you time, and power, and remove the panic and the obsession.
jmho obviously. I was so madly in love with that guy and I totally blew it from anxiety.