Yup. That's pretty much how it goes. When u have no money/job, if ur sick and/or depressed, people usually disappear and no longer want to be around you.

From what I've observed, we are only good for for the things we have. Other than that, ppl think we are of no use. Sounds harsh but good friends are far and few. They are the ones who stick by you when you have close to nothing.

my two closest friends go to school during the day and work at night and somehow find time to take care of their kids. its lonely without being able to hang out with them. the highlight of my week is lunch with my son after he's done with school.

I can't even find many friends on here anymore. at one time I had over 60 friends and heard from 30 or more a few times a week. now I have 20 and if im lucky I hear from 6...not exactly the greatest percentage.

I do cherish the few that I do talk to

I think the difference between acquaintances and friends is how the divide is made,....those who never contact are acquaintances and nothing more....when you see them your friendly with them....but you do not call them into your life and they do not call you into their lives either....

it is not easy to move someone from acquaintance to friend....

also for me here...I really do have loads of people on my friend list but it takes a lot to get in there and hug everyone and some are gone now but still on my list....I wish I could do it more often and give hugs or high fives to all but it takes a lot of time to go thru and make those connections....I do it two or three times a year...start at A and go as far as I can before I am worn to frazzle....

hugs to all

You are not alone at all. I feel the same way. Sometimes I wish I was back in the old days were people valued friendship. It takes a toll on people when they are not there but only when it is convenient to them. I know plenty of those people.

I have lost friends due to my depression. People just don't want to deal with it,
And I don't blame them. I figure I need to work on how to be a friend before
I can have any friends. I know there are people out there who have been a
good friend to others only to get treated poorly and this is very sad. I think
Friendship is a very precious thing and has to be cared for gently.

I have two "friends" who have told me that they never call their friends. They wait to be called. Well I got sick of doing all the calling. Go figure.

Thank you all for your inputs and comments. Very sad to hear so many others feel the same thing but knowing I can at least share the sentiment help loads.

Thanks again and I am here for you all should you need me.

I know some people are just hard to understand I almost always have to be the one to contact the other person even before I was lonely but I never realized it then. Just try to remember that just the fact that they know you and haven't contacted you doesn't mean they are betraying you or hate you that's what I do.

well.... I am considering volunteering my time and considering exactly how lazy I am... I may resort to this my self. Pet shelters need help might be a good way to have a support group.

Yes, Anna-C,

I think maybe work groups and lil' groups of ppl who have a shared task or official task ,. . . . are growing in significance.
--In emotional significance.

And the old-fashioned pattern of friends-from-school, friends-one-used-to-work-with ... is becoming less significant. Think logistics.

I feel the same way..

to play devil's advocate, how often do you contact the people in your life? Because its a two way street. I often hear people bitch about friends never calling when they themselves never call also.

Geez, do I ever know this to be true. You get down and out, sick or whatever and they disappear like magicians. Especially the ones that you feel you've given a lot to when they were going through a bad time or needed a shoulder or someone to bring them soup even. I have just about given up on everyone.

I agree with reply 13 for sure...my same situation and reply 12 you re def right...it goes both ways...what is really tiring is that I constantly feel like a moron because when i reach out nine times out of ten people just ignore me.