Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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natalieo
natalieo
Since I have been lonely the last while, I have had a tendency to start becoming interested in all the boys/men/guys i interact with daily. One had made me snap, and is the reason for me finding this site, and while others have just decided to sleep with whoever, which bugs me. Now, (this is a little embarrassing, which is why it has taken me some time to spill) it is my tutor. He is a smart, funny, interesting guy, whom I had thought for a long time was around the age of 23, but recently I have found out that he is only 19. Me being 17, I am ecstatic to hear this. But, there is this small problem. Guys tend to not like me, for whatever reason they are keeping secret. I really don't know what to do about this. I could see us together, but I don't want him (if he ever found out) to be weirded out by this. I suck at flirting. and I usually come straight out and inform the guy about how I feel. In this case, I don't want to. I don't want to make stupid rash decisions that will just ruin me later. But, I hate the fact that I only see him once a week, for one hour. I want to add him on Facebook, but then again, that might weird him out. I am a lost cause. If anyone has their opinion to tell, please do, anything would be great.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You shouldnt doubt yourself. Just be strong and do what you think is best. Doors open for a reason. So that you can go through them to something new. If your path opens a new light than good! If your path tends to ruin than always know that theres another door waiting for you.

You just need to feel confident and let the other know about your situation. Or If you truly feel doubted, observe him and try to let him get to know you better. Be friends than continue you on from there.

Remember, Take baby steps before you sprint to your goal.
natalieo
natalieo
Thanks. (= , I'll see what I can do.
denton808
denton808
just be yourself and cultivate yourself to who you want to be. it's ok if you ain't perfect, no one is. over time you will get more social experience. everyone fucks up once in awhile. just see each step as a learning experience. be true to who you are. if the guy dont like you then he dont like you, i mean dont mean anything wrong with you. just not his type of girl. don't take it personal and so hard on yourself. be free and live your life, don't make it life or death. enjoy it for what it is. at least that's how i live my life :P
Justonekitty
Justonekitty
Is the in college? He may be concerned about the legalities. Some guys are stupid but if he is the smart type he may change his tune when you turn 18. I've heard of ppl going to jail just for a few yrs difference. Keep being nice to him and add him on facebook or mention facebook to him and add him. He may like you but is just hesitant or gay.
monkeyboyJr
monkeyboyJr
Hi Nat - great avatar. I took a moment to read your profile. Friendly opinion - you are definitely NOT a mess. You are a teenager. This is you time of uncertainty (you probably don't want to hear that, but it's true). There are going to be times that you wonder if you're ever going to feel comfortable with who you are, let alone meet someone who accepts you for who you are. I promise you, those times are temporary. Once you reconcile those 'contradictions' you see in yourself (most of us find the balance inbetween our extremes), you'll be able to carry yourself with a sort of 'this-is-me-deal-with-it' attitude. That leads to a self confidence which is attractive to many people.
You have strengths. Play them up boldly. Have fun being single. Work on your career goal. Do volunteer work. And when the empty lonely feelings come around, remind yourself of these words - it ain't forever, even if it's for now.
I wish you all the best.
natalieo
natalieo
-Yeah, he is in university.
-Thanks, I enjoy my picture as well. I understand what you are saying, and to be honest, I like who I am, and I know I won't change me for someone (at least, try not to). But yes, confidence, I used to have so much, but reject, after reject, fail after fail, I am now struggling to keep my confidence from hitting the bottom. I will have fun being single.... (or try to), Thanks!