Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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lookingup83
lookingup83
My 32 years I've had a total of four really good friends; three of which have since passed away. Even within those friends, I myself wanting more from a friendship. I like to ponder all aspects of life and our existence and I have yet to find anyone with that similar thought process. I want to have more meaningful conversation than just chitchat and gossip. As a matter fact I don't really care about gossip at all, or fake conversations (such as the weather) Because I am so introverted, I have chosen jobs over the years where I don't have to have these conversations with customers. I'm starting to believe there is no one left who cares talking about anything other than themselves. Of course I'm wrong about this, but within my little world this seems to be true. My 1 of 4 friends that I have left is very self-involved and therefore I can only talk to her when she's having drama in her life or when she's not dating someone. When she's dating someone it's almost like she falls off the face of the planet. Certainly there is more in this world for me.
beehumble50
beehumble50
Hi Only the lonely,
Yes there is way more in this world for you..Yes I know how it feels when friends (especially self involved ones) seem to only need you when they need to be passified,...And zippo! Once their lives are back in motion you're left on the side lines...It can be a feeling of being used for me
billwfriend
billwfriend
wow three of your friends I assume your age died and that is sad to lose someone so young....

I do not know how to tell you this but try church for that type of person who ponders more out of life....hugs
lookingup83
lookingup83
That is very true, I do feel on the sidelines a lot. But then again I feel this in all of my relationships, I'm not even close to my own brother or mom. My dad passed away but he and I were a lot alike. Since he passed in 2009, I've felt even more alone as I don't really connect with others, at least on a deep level. I keep trying to think of ways to meet people but I don't drink or do the bar scene, nor do I like coffee. Not much of a reader either, so not sure..
lookingup83
lookingup83
Yes my friends died very soon in life, and also very suddenly. I actually found my friend Amy after her heart attack, she was only 35. Death is sort of an old friend (sounds strange I know) because from very early on started losing everyone around me. I lost my own daughter at 17, actually had to make the decision to end her life. Because of all of this, I have a broad understanding of life and death. I'm just lonely and I don't know how to be okay with that.
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I am not interested in TV programmes like I am not interested in people convesations. I am a deep thinker. I like intellegent convesations. I think there are people who wants to have meaningfull talk. Keep looking. I am not interested in people converations but I found I get along with the managers at my work well. Why? maybe managers know how to think. We cannot be friends because they are my managers, but it gave me hope. Are there any single groups in your area like Meetup? Try those.
bettykf
bettykf
I understand what you are saying. I think there is human need for deeper connections. We are all looking for something more. That's why we feel this void. There is so much superficial news and emptiness in this world. Let's stay connected. This web site needs a chat room where we can all connect with each other. There is something comforting in knowing that we all feel similarly.
wheretheredwoodsgrow
wheretheredwoodsgrow
Im sorry for your loss. My heart goes out to you. I feel I have a hard time relating to others. I dont like gossip either. I think it used too much to start a friendship, to meet people and feel like they can relate. Although I am a deep thinker sometimes I'm not the best with words, but if you want an extra friend I'll try. :-)
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