Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Kook
Kook
i am # 8 of 8 children. I have 18 nieces and nephews. Ive been playing in bands for 30 years. Know alot of people. Have some close friends. Married and divorced. 4 year relationship with someone after that. Dating someone now.

But istill feel lonely.
Theres something missing somewhere, theres a void created by i dont know what. Its a feeling ive had for a long long time. As a kid, through high school, after a party i always went home alone, after gigs when people were dancing and having a good time, i went home alone. Always had low self esteem. Something happened or didnt happen when i was very young, My little boy inside is lonely and blue. Im not as socially uncomfortable as i used to be, but i remember being terrified, like i had a secret to hide. Just really weird.
I wish for this dragon to show its ugly face.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You've described me and probably most others on this board to a "t".

I'm married iwth child and still feel lonely and all those other things you described. Like you said near the ned of your email, I'm also more socially comfortable than before but I still tend to keep to myself at times.

As I get older, I've been trying to make peace with the "void" inside, mainly through meditation. Once I sit still and just live in the present moment, the void seems to disappear and peace comes.

Helping others on here has also alleviated some of that "empty" feeling as well.

I'm sure you're about to see that others on here feel the same way you do!
billwfriend
billwfriend
welcome Kook....I wish I had musical talent but when I was five I gave up piano lessons because it robbed me of time within the neighborhood where I had lots of friends at that time....I always wanted musical skills but never tried until in college picked up a cheap classical guitar and tried to learn from friend who could play and teach...did not have skills....

oh well there is my void....no musical skills... HAHAHA LOL

I hope you have fun here and welcome you to this site I guess your new but not sure....I am semi new...few months here....
Justonekitty
Justonekitty
You sound like you fit in here. I was also the same girl in high school- lots of friends but not really.
To billwfriend- I had a piano too when in jr high but my mom complained about my practicing. I guess she expected me to be a mozart w/o the practice?! So I go discouraged n stopped. I regret it too.
Kook
Kook
Ive done some inner child therapy in the past.. I used to see the little boy in me crying, breathing heavy, like he was sared to death. I know what to do to give him some peace.....but it just seems i cant uproot whatever it is. It keeps coming back. I guess i have to think of it as a disease....manage it when it starts affecting my life. Im so lucky to be where i am right now....i can see and feel it before i do really stupid stuff.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel the same, surrounded by people and quite lonely. You are in good company here. :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
I feel exactly the same. I have a job surrounded by people, a lot of friends, a significant other, three cats etc., yet the loneliness is unbearable at times. I blame it on my kids living out of state but that is true of a lot of people in this transient society of ours. I really would like to know how to combat these feelings. Trace
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