Have you tried finding someone on DS to talk to, their are tons of people on here whom would like to talk?

ophelia i am sorry for what you are going through it seems like familys have this happening more and more, the only person in mine that talks to me is my mother, and i think its only for my kids, you have us, we dont wanna know about anyone but you

Ophelia--I feel for ya but you've been going on about this.... you just wrote in another post that you think everybody hates you. What should you do?--how about working with a counsellor, a person who can help you understand why you feel this way.

I've had problems with family paying attention to me as well. A very wise counselor told me that to get and keep their attention "you have to be fun to be around". I know this is not always easy when we have emotional issues, but that is what it takes.

Struggle if you have to to be fun and positive. I'll bet you will see a difference in the way your family treats you.

I just wanted to thank all of you for taking the time for replying to this. I feel kind of stupid for putting this up here. I was in a whiny mood I suppose. My depression was making me immature and not allowing proper introspection.

Please do not apologize for this post. Actually I really liked it. It was the one post I could relate too. I am sorry that your parents treat you this way and make you feel bad and that you havn't had many people who have been nice to you. I can really relate. I don't understand it either but I know that it is very painful. Thank you very much for posting.

i go through almost the same thing with my cousin. shes better looking, better liked but shes a few months younger than me. we hardly ever talk to each other even when were in the same room. my mom and aunt try to make us spend more time together because they want me to be more like her. when i have my phone they call her instead even when they want to talk to me and whenever they buy me stuff they buy me the stuff that my cousin likes because for some strange reason they think ill like it too ....

My parents paid more attention to my brother and my sister because they saw them both as more "needy" than I was. My parents were always giving them money, buying them things and I got squat!

While this was going on I felt poorly because it felt like my parents liked my siblings better than they did me. In reality it was the opposite. Near the end of my father's life he told me that I was treated differently because he knew that I was the one who could take care of myself, and I was the only one he was really proud of.

Perhaps this is the case in some of the rest of you out there.

I always use to think that about my older sisters. I have since learned they are not as perfect as I made them up to believe.

I would - polietly ask people to stop asking about her, try and tell someone how you feel so you don't keep it bottled up inside (someone out side of DS), and for every negative thought brought on by your sister replace it with at least two positive thoughts about yourself.

Hope that helped... or you got something useful out of it... = /

Try to find a counselor to talk to about this, it will help you process and vent. When people ask about your sister simply suggest to them if they want to know how she is they should ask her. Did you and your sister ever have a fight or something that would cause you to not speak? Maybe try sitting down with her and find out why she doesn't talk to you much. We like you and will talk to you and we won't ask about your sister either. :-)

even though I was the baby in the family my mother never gave the attention I needed I tried everything to get her to notice me

It was years later that I realize I got to live for me

family is important but you should live for you
search inside yourself find the things that make you happy

we people see you doing your own thing they will want to make that connection HUG

My older brothers were always more important and I have a cousin who I know my mother wishes was her daughter instead of me...

After years of trying to get love from my family... I finally thought "oh fuck it!"
Now I live for me and don't give a shit whether anyone likes me or not. :)
They think more of me these days...

Strangely, it seems that the worse you want people's approval and affection, the less likely they are to give it. If you don't really care if they like you, they're more likely find you interesting. I don't understand it, but I've seen it in my life, too.

My parents paid way more attention to my older sister than to me. I was 'just another girl' and anything I did, my sister had already done and probably done better. Family can be great, but some just don't get that we are ourselves, and not our cousin or sibling.

Try not to spend time wondering how to make these people notice and appreciate you. Just be yourself and live your life, do what makes you happy. Chances are, they will decide you're someone they want to know, after all. If not, it's their loss not yours.

What should you do? Take your focus off them and put it where it will do you some good. Ignore the people who treat you like that - bummer they are your family but that part can't be changed. Just ignore them and the ex and seek the company of those who are interested in You. Simply don't give the others a single thought.

Im sorry you feel this way. Maybe your parents see you as capable , independent and stronger than your sister, therefore they might worry about her more than you.

In the big scheme of life, if does not matter is she is better looking than you, looks are such a superficial thing, the most important thing you can possess, is love and kindness..

Tell you parents you feel neglected,