Statistically there are more older women then men...so the odds are in your favor.

I feel the same way Penn. I have no luck in that area and been alone since my wife left in 2002 but I know in my heart who I am even though at times I question my self worth I don't need anyone to validate who I am.

Blondie61,

but, the mars/venus analogy, maybe more extreme later in life, with a lot of older women seemingly content to be around their grandkids.

there are some 50-something women, on lonelyheart sites, who do like to ride a Harley, complete with photos of such;)

eyesalve,

I'm sorry to hear about what happened to you in 2002.

I sometimes know who I am, and late in life I've learned I would like just one person to validate who I am:)

well penn you are a fine humanbeing

Wow; someone else that has never felt the love of a mate. I have dark thoughts; regrets; remorse quite a lot of late. Even though I was married twice; I have never known the love of a man. My first marriage did not last a year. I left him, as he kept threatening to kill me. Abusive alcoholic. Round two: second marriage; another abusive alcoholic. 17 years of being beat down verbally and physically. I planned on hanging in there until our son turned 18 years old. I could not make it; and divorced him when our son was almost 15. Hindsight is 20-20. I look back now and realize that I had married my father two times-----an abusive alcoholic. It was all I knew; and all I believed I deserved. Too late for me now; as I will be 58 in a few weeks; and I have very severe emphysema.

thanks eyesalve,

though, when I venture (less and less) on news sites to post my opinion, there are people who definitely disagree with what you wrote about me;)

blueirisnw,

I'm sorry to read about your tragedy. unfortunately, a lot of people wind up with people like their parents, and then maybe alone cause of their parents.

How dreadful the knowledge of the truth can be
When theres no help in truth.----Oedipus

I have no desire to suffer twice, in reality and then in retrospect---Oedipus

2,500 years ago for greek playwrites to know such stuff!

Gosh, quoting from Oedipus. I'm impressed. Enjoyed reading it.

Tnx

There are many forms of love in life besides a woman. That said, yes, it is nice to have a warm body to curl up to at night.

I've felt love from my family, but not the kind of loving support I need in my life. I somehow became the "rock" of the family, so when I fall apart I'm either met with anger or everyone runs away until I'm "better" again. When you get stuck in the main support role, there's no one left to support you.

This has left me with a emptiness in my life that I believe could be filled a lot by a romantic partner. But, no luck there in my life so far. I've had one relationship that lasted about 6 months. It's pathetic.

Friendship is often a more healthy form of love than romantic love! True friends can be just as wretched as they want to be and have that support. True friends also call each other on each other's shit, "tough love", so be prepared to reap the occasional backlash if you happen to catch a friend at an inopportune time!

Romantic love can often cause you more irreparable emotional harm when you're really feeling down than friendship-!