Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
so here's something that may keep a person busy who's bored as I often am.
Awhile ago I was thinking that I've lived 47 years now and my life is getting to the point of where it's difficult to remember when and where everything happened. So I came up with an idea: a Word file with memorable stuff that's happened in my life (at least memorable for me). Every now and then I add to it and the timing between different events is interesting.
Of course so many events revolve around the Packers and I can often remember what was going on in my life depending on what they were doing at that time. For example, I remember what I was doing in my life when Brett Favre took over as QB for them... blah blah blah. But otherwise I put on my timeline when the kids were born, things that happened to my ex and I when we were together was well as when Lost and 24 ended (which created tears in me as they were both things we shared). Anybody remember when Eddie Murphy played Buckwheat in SNL and they did a "Buckwheat is dead" skit which was a spoof of president Ronald Reagan getting shot? I put that on my list also as I remembering seeing it. maybe that's a hobby somebody else may want to take up. What's funny is the more you add to the list the more other things you remember.
Awhile ago I was thinking that I've lived 47 years now and my life is getting to the point of where it's difficult to remember when and where everything happened. So I came up with an idea: a Word file with memorable stuff that's happened in my life (at least memorable for me). Every now and then I add to it and the timing between different events is interesting.
Of course so many events revolve around the Packers and I can often remember what was going on in my life depending on what they were doing at that time. For example, I remember what I was doing in my life when Brett Favre took over as QB for them... blah blah blah. But otherwise I put on my timeline when the kids were born, things that happened to my ex and I when we were together was well as when Lost and 24 ended (which created tears in me as they were both things we shared). Anybody remember when Eddie Murphy played Buckwheat in SNL and they did a "Buckwheat is dead" skit which was a spoof of president Ronald Reagan getting shot? I put that on my list also as I remembering seeing it. maybe that's a hobby somebody else may want to take up. What's funny is the more you add to the list the more other things you remember.
it gives me nightmares. I remember every horrible incident. I wish
I could forget.
My memory sucks, so I should start doing this.
I have a journal where I write down some daily things which I've used for the past couple years (a book, not digital). So that's cool to look back and see what I've done.
I have not thought about doing something for the previous years though. Interesting!
In the future you could make a scrapbook with some quotes from your files and pictures of the Packers and other mementos. You could just print out pictures from the internet to find some good ones.
You wrote, "I have a wonderful memory and wish I didn't. I remember it all and it gives me nightmares. I remember every horrible incident. I wish I could forget."
Thinking about the past does no good. Feeling bad about it changes nothing. It is what happened.
I have heard of some different therapies to help recover from stressful memories...
One method is meditation.
Just having a daily meditation practice for 20 minutes a day-- letting the thoughts come and go without trying to control them-- just letting the thoughts come and go like waves on the beach-- can retrain your mind to let go of these hurtful things.
Here is a website about zen buddhism-- they have a forum and online meditation sessions where people meditate together online. I do not think you have to be a buddhist to join in.
http://www.treeleaf.org/
Also another method I have heard involves the illegal drug ecstasy. Supposedly some therapists use ecstasy illegally in their practice because it gets such good results healing PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder).
Ecstasy makes the patient feel very good-- and then when he or she talks about the traumatic past, they are able to relive the event without pain. This promotes healing.
I'm not saying go try some illegal drug-- but I'm just throwing it out there in a brainstorm type of way that there are treatments for traumatic memories.
Also I'm sure there are therapists who specialize in working with patients recovering from trauma.
Blessings.
I used to keep a memory box but it contained mainly things from a particularly troubled time in my life. I used to get upset looking through that so I threw it out.
Gave up on "lost" around season 2/3. Well done for sticking with it. A favourite of mine was "Six Feet Under"