Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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jasper353 06/12/2013

I was wondering if anybody out there knows of a good book title that or something related that helps men to make friends with women. I am not talking about those "pick-up" books because I have looked at some of them and I would like some potential interaction with a nice lady to be classy, if I can help it. And I can't go to bars anyway because I am in recovery. But I must confess that I have a really difficult time just getting women to be my friend. I know it must be a shortcoming because it seems to me that there is something in my eyes, or something similar that causes them to seem to be repelled by me. And that is the hardest part because if a woman doesn't want to go out and stuff, all she has to do is let me know. But to have zero females to even talk to on the phone makes me depressed, and sometimes even makes me want to be dead. Not now, of course.
But to look at it pragmatically, I must assume that there is something about me that I can change to at least get women to be my friend.
If it is not God's time for romance, then how can I fight that, but I don't think that the Lord would mind me having a few amicable relationships with the opposite sex. I have plenty of male friends.
Anybody out there have any websites I could check out for the sake of self-improvement in this area? I would be much obliged.

heretic 06/12/2013

I don't know any websites, sorry. But I do know that women usually aren't looking for a "just friends" relationship with the opposite sex. They look at you and evaluate whether of not you'd make a good partner. And since you've said you aren't ready for that they move on. I'm sorry, I know that isn't what you want to hear, and I wish you the best of luck finding those women who want only friendship. Big Hugs

deleted_user 06/12/2013

I've always gotten along better with guys than women but I tend to stay away from making friends with guys only bc I am in a good marriage and I'm pretty sure my husband would not approve of me talking to other guys even if it wasn't sexual. Maybe that is how other women feel too. I can't speak for them but that is how it is with me. You can always add me as a friend on here if you want to. I would t mind talking to you. I understand how it is to be lonely and have few friends.

deleted_user 06/13/2013

I was always someone who liked humor and there are some great books out there that are funny.

I like the Adam Carolla book "Not Taco Bell Material" and it has many parts that are funny to retell.

I also like the book "Sh*t my Dad Says" and that will have you laughing out loud.

deleted_user 06/14/2013

I have heard about meetup.com but have not had much time to really use it to my benefit.

deleted_user 06/14/2013

Hi Jasper: There was a show that Patti Stanger had where the millionaire had that really "creepy look" he would give women. Her and her staff told him about it and he didn't listen to them at all--didn't get the girl.

Can you talk to your male friends and ask them? Is it the way you dress, the way your eyes shift, or what you say that may turn a woman away? Get the feedback, then work on it and get your great subjects to discuss with women, some humor and you should have it made.

BundlesofJoy 06/14/2013

Why use a book to alter who you already are??

Be yourself and someone out there will like what they see. There is someone out there for everybody. Unfortunately, ppl have let technology take over their lives. A typical Friday evening would be to talk to a friend online as suppose to going out & meeting up for an actual chit chat like in the good old days before the internet.

Go out and make your presence known. Someone out there is searching for someone like you. Church, social club, volunteer, join gym and just talk to strangers. There is no perfect pick up line.

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