Lonely,

You are not alone. My husband wants me to clean the house, take care of kids, help pay the bills, etc., but wants to spend no time with me. I will look for your group.

I would join but I can not find it.......will you please post the link. Thanks!

I had trouble finding it, too. The title has a few misspellings, so that may be the problem.

http://dailystrength.org/groups/lining-in-a-lovelesslonely-marraige

I am not married.I like to know why people are lonely after they are married.I like to join so I can read about it.Can you tell me the name?

I empathize with you . I am not longer married. When the communication breaks down it's no longer love (in my opinion) but has turned to obligation. Have any of you (& I'm not criticizing) said, hon, I know our communication has stopped, is there anything I can do to make it better? The minute you put the blame you claim it for him or yourself. Don't point fingers, just ask the question & give him time to answer. He may be so shocked that you asked that he may have to think about it. If he doesn't reply right away, just say If you think of someway I may be able to help us just come to me & tell me. DON"T say "lets talk" for some reason this makes men get on the defensive.
I've learned more being single than I did being married that's for sure. Did you know that in a poll about what women believe about being married, 98% said they no longer want to be married. That's 98% of the ones who took the poll not 98% of the USA population. Good luck on the group but try to stay positive & not just berate your mates or complain.

HI AGAIN!!THE SUPPORT GROUPS HEADING WAS MISSPELLED WHEN STARTED ,I AM TRYING TO SEE IF IT CAN BE CHANGED BUT UNTIL THEN ITS:LINING IN A LOVELESSLONELY MARRAIGE.IF YOU STILL CANT FIND IT GO TO MY PROFILE AND CLICK ON IT THERE.HOPE TO HEAR FROM YOU...

just my advice here.

The mostlonely institution ia an unhappy unfilled relationship,

sometimes its more lonely in an unfulfilled relationship. than actually being alone, without the relationship.

My experience was 16 years in a brutal relationship feeling alone and lost versus 9 years alone and having total control.
i know what i would choose now

i feel the same way...

I will join this group. Sounds like just what I need for support....Count me in.

@lily61,I have thought the same thing for many years Im more like a servant than a partner in this house and unfortunately I think that is how he likes it. (his dad is the same way with his wife) the killer was when his father and step mother got into it and he said he was gonna "end it" my husband said that will never happen he needs her to do the laundry and everything..... It hit me so hard is that really what we are to them servants with benefits???? Gurr frustrating to be neglected so badly.

lonelyinNY, I share with your feelings of a lonely marriage. My wife is a self-centered person who is only interested in ensuring that her needs/desires are met, even if it is a detriment to the rest of the family. I've tried to get her to go to marriage consuling, but she's not interested. As a result, it is very lonely for not only to I not have a spouse who I can share my thoughts with, but I don't have any friends who I can talk to either.

read a book a while back called 5 love languages. Talks about how people express their love in different ways and can feel bad when the way they want to be loved is not reciprocated. Talks about communicating to the other person about what they can do to make you feel loved.

I am interested. I really need support.

Well david that group post is from ten or more years ago. Good luck

There are marriage support groups here if you are interested, Dave. Most people try to get out of lonely loveless marriages, not stay in them.

God Bless