Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hi. I have always been a loner and not by choice. In the past I have dealt with this by going to meetups with strangers that rarely evolved into actual friendships. Although I must say, the chance of success was much higher in L.A.
Anyhow, due to everything being shut down, my social life is in the dumps. I have no spouse, no kids, and no friends. I am thousands of miles away from my family. I feel like I am going to go crazy without anyone to talk to. So I am looking to chat online with folks. I am not interested in online discussion boards where people argue all the time. Suggestions?
Also I am open to making connections on this site if you are active, meaning you visit the site daily to build up regular communication.
I would love to chat with you . I'm in Florida.
Looking forward to hearing from you soon. Take care.
I isolated because basically it was the only thing short of dying that made me feel and assured. I will say that I wasn’t always a perfect person either. Not a rotten, evil person but certain human enough to be self serving at times.
I didn’t know how to handle so many awful things and it broke me. I have PTSD from it all. So honestly I’ve been living the COViD life for nearly 3 years.
I’m really struggling to trust anyone and sometimes even my own judgement. I’ve lost connect with my very closest friends because I didn’t know how to explain how debilitating PTSD can be. I suffered alone until more recently. After being hospitalized 7 times in 4 years I went the health department and told them I was better off dead. I was hoping to be euthanized. They linked me up with an assessment coordinator. After about 3 -4 hours of questions and testing she shocked the hell out of me. Many of the symptoms as a layman I believed ran close to many different impairments. I didn’t guess it to be PTSD. Sense then I’ve began to come out of my shell some. I haven’t worked in a traditional setting in 4 years sense things went really bad. So I did freelance work and made due. Basically everyday I saw as a day I had to survive. So things like taxes didn’t get filed, I barely grocery shopped, let alone put myself in any environment that was stressful or hostile at all. Sadly I was a frigging college wrestler and liked stressful/hostile situations. 3 weeks ago I talk a tradition type job again. It was hard telling the owner about my condition. However it had to be done. The company is a smaller one and he was understanding. I actually look forward to going most days. My co-workers are 68 and 73 respectively. So to say the least it’s a relatively calm environment. I’m a profession construction cost estimator. We reverse engineer plans and designs. Which allows for quantification of materials, labor and equipment. I like work I do and have been doing it 22 years. So I’m seasoned at a minimum.
4 months ago I began dating. My girlfriend is age equivalent and we dated on and off for 4 years in high school and college. Whenever the social media rage took hold we occasionally kept in touch via that method. We both divorced with in a year of the other 5 years ago. So we talked more but had a geographic barrier. A year ago when I was having some of the worst symptoms at high frequency she reached out pretty hard. We started FaceTiming and talk nearly each day or more. Then 4 months ago I moved to VA to be closer to her. As we both wanted to see if the relationship had a real chance.
I knew there would be unique challenges. I had a lot of work to do personally and she had a lot of moving parts in her own life. She doesn’t have a physiological disorder I’m aware of. However she has constraints in her life that are equally as damming or worse.
I believe she loves me. I believe I love her and took a huge step coming here. As well as taking a full time position and getting legitimate help and therapy. Granted I have my days and some baggage that required explaining to her family.
What I don’t realize is she’s so codependent on her family that out relationship may not ever be more then seeing the other when she can for possibly ever. She’s lived with her parents for 22 years sense graduating college. She has a daughter that’s a college senior and a good kid but not much help to her and a huge financial burden for a while longer from her first marriage. She has a 5 year old son that’s an absolute fucking nightmare. The kid hits her, talks back and bit the hell out of her while we were at the park last week. Both she and her parents literals jump at his command. He has never slept in his own bed. He sleeps in hers every night. His father who she wasted 15 great years of life with has a every Tuesday and every other weekend arrangement. So he keeps the kid an hour on Tuesday and in his weekends keeps him for 6 - 8 Friday night, 11-4!on Saturday and most Sundays are optional. Then legal requirement is 6pm Friday until 4 pm Sunday. Own and $500 bucks a month that does cover two weeks day care.
So I’ve not spent a single night yet with her. She comes to see me at lunch for an hour and when the dude has the kid we hang out. So I can’t go to her parents much as her sister and her boyfriend also live there. They’re hostile drunks and like to start shit because they just miserable people.
So she proclaims her love to me very profusely. She acknowledges all the things that are constraining. She tells me she is working on them and I need to give her more time to allow others to adjust and do what’s just right or required. Yet the problems are getting worse and I’m seeing her even less.
I really care about her. Yet struggle to see how I’ll ever be anything more then a person she escapes to when it fits her schedule. Let me rephrase fits the schedule others outside us dictate. She’s not made good on a single promise. She’s tells me I can’t expect her make such changes after being her only 4 months. What I think is she hopes I just except it for what it is. I don’t believe she’ll ever leave her home. I don’t believe she’ll ever put me in the list of importance equal to even her ex. As she allows his desire to not do as required to adversity affect us. Obviously there’s a codependency on her parents and sister. They’re all mean as hell so I don’t go to her place. She says she’s moving out anytime there’s an issue but hasn’t made the first attempt to plan that for herself or with me.
I’m not overstating any of this. In fact can’t possibly tell it all with making a Novel. This shut has been terrible for my PTSD, yet I’m making strides and trying.
I don’t know many people her and I’m lonely as I was before coming. Maybe worse because the obstacles are weighing on me. I don’t want to fail the relationship without making additional efforts.
So anyone have suggestions?
long for friendship even long for the one that's so much wish was part of my life is having someone to love and they intern love me back ,so long for that blessing in this life would like to chat
So one thing I looked into was online chat rooms. I guess I am really old because I didn't realize they are basically defunct. You remember AOL Instant Messenger, Yahoo Messenger, etc.? Most people are now using apps I guess like Google Hangouts, but I don't want to download an app to my phone.
I did find one website that appears to allow you to create chat rooms. It is called wireclub.com. So if this interests you, let me know and I can create a chat room there and we can schedule a daily chat time for anyone to enter the room and just talk to whoever is available that day.