Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
I live in a quiet village where most people keep themselves to them selves and alot of elderly people,i find it so difficult to make friends partly because of my anxiety issues and low self esteem and fear of rejection,i cant go out and drink as alcahol makes me ill for days afterwards,i do have a couple of friends in relationships but dont see them too often,im just not getting out of bed till 3 pm and seems like theres no way out of this
i hear you. i have low self esteem, and social anxiety. but my towns very active... i just seem to be the only one to keep to myself.
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I have a daughter who complains of just what you described. I know its difficult as I have low self esteem and my people skills are not the best so friends are few, sometimes none. Here are some things she & I have both done to help us.
If I may make a suggestions.... get two alarm clocks , ones you have to shut off manually. Set them in two different places just out of reach so you have to get up to turn them off, set them to go off 10 minutes apart.
Write a note to yourself & put it by each clock. They could say something like , Your up now so make some coffee/tea/breakfast or you know your too handsome to stay in bed. What ever works for you cos only you will be reading the notes. :)
It also helps to make a list of things you want to get done for the next day before you go to sleep at night. Sometimes my lists say things like, go for a walk, take a bus ride, go pick up milk, clean the bird cage, do the dishes. It gives incentive to get up when you have the list. Check them off the list as you get them done, that creates a sense of accomplishment.
Say hello to everyone when you go out of your apt/house that you see. Don't worry if they don't say hello back, your doing this for you. I think you'll see you get several hellos in return, you may even end up starting a friendship if you keep doing this. Force yourself to smile as someone will smile back & that is a treat in this day & age.
About rejection... it sucks. Now having said that I look at it like this, I've offered something and they have said no thanks. So I just move on. Don't take it so personal. Everyone is fighting their own battles and some days they just can't take on one more thing, even saying hello... but don't give up. Everything changes with time & nothing stays the same forever.
I hope this helps :)