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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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lonely my entire life

Christinaki
Christinaki
I am a very lonely person and I have been since I remember.. I never had any friends, I am kinda agoraphobic, I have social anxiety, I just can't relate well with others (strangers) so I never had many relationships with anyone. I never had friends at school, no boyfriends, my life is kinda empty and all I have are my brothers (3 boys), but they, of course, have their own life and can't always be with me.

I feel hurt that they leave me sometimes to hang with their friends, because I am their sister so I should come first, but I also understand their side and I wish I had friends of my own as well.

I never had friends in school, I used to hang out alone in corridors LOL without anyone to talk. A few months ago I found an ex class mate on facebook and I sent her a request.. she added me and we talked on chat a couple of times. One day I saw her out and I smiled and said hi and she acted like she didn't know me..

This happens with a lot of people that used to go to school with me, I have them added, but yet they seem to ignore when I say hi or leave a comment on their photos..

I don't know if the problem is ME or my behaviour. I just wish i had some friends to talk to sometimes. I can't go anywhere cause I don't have company.. it's though when you are almost 25 years old..

I do have some online friends but I feel like they got tired of me already, everytime I talk to them they always say they have to go and leave. Sometimes i appear offline on msn and they come back online, like they just wanted to get rid of me. I try to email them and I get no replies. I just feel that people are too busy for me ..
deleted_user
deleted_user
That's really rough. I can relate. I am also cursed with agoraphobia, don't relate well with others & I only have a few good friends here. It's difficult because it's not the same as having friends across the street. You have to get online in order to interact. I am sure that I won't be alone forever & neither will you. Even here on DS there are some wonderful, selfless & caring people. I think they are a minority, but they're here. I hope you can find people who will appreciate you more. I am confident that you will. . . In time. Good luck & have a nice day.
deleted_user
deleted_user
it really does suck, I've felt that way my entire life, not a single person to be there for me or get to know me, even the few half assed friends I've had always disappear in the end. As far as online friends, well, you have to understand that some people have their own problems and there are long periods of time where they don't want to talk to anyone because they are struggling so hard and everything seems pointless, myself included. I never see you on DS when I'm on, although I'm not on too often. If you want to chat sometime we could do it on Skype or something.
P00hbear
P00hbear
I completely understand the feeling of people being too busy for you...life does get very hectic and I have great friends, but they do get very busy, as do I. I realized that at the same time I am complaining about others being too busy, I myself give off the same message - I think when people think you are unavailable for whatever reason (in your case the agoraphobia) it makes it much harder to connect. I don't think Facebook is a great place to connect - the fact that you could chat on-line then they don't say hello in person is a sign of how superficial facebook really is - she may not have even recognized you or something. I would say work on yourself as much as you can and try to connect as best as you can, but don't let the lack of connection cause you to retreat further inside yourself because that will be a tough cycle to break. Find things in life that you enjoy just because, and see if any of those things might draw you out and help you overcome the fear. Hang in there, hope this helps some...
PinterestFan
PinterestFan
It's great that you have three brothers who care about you.
There should be a simple solution to people who have trouble connecting - there should be real-world groups to join where people give each other constructive criticism, with a trained counselor to make sure the group acts right - huge problem in this country now.
People behave differently in groups and in public, than as individuals.

If you speak to someone and they ignore you, all you can do is let it go. No reason to ask what's wrong with you - you responded normally.

When you can't get what you need from the relationships in your life, little things become big things. Each small slight becomes much more important than it would be if you went home to a great family, if people were supportive and had your back. Instead of turning the anger inward, find a constructive outlet for it. Just throw yourself into something that you are interested in - exercise, hobbies, reading, and become really accomplished at it. No one can take care of you better than you can.

Whatever is going on in your life, you can do the best you can for yourself with what you have to work with. When you care too much about what other people think, you're giving them power over you - most people don't handle power very well.

Sure hope you can find exactly what makes you happy, that doesn't rely on anyone. If you become content with yourself, it makes people more comfortable around you.