I understand how you feel. When I became ill a lot of my friends no longer had time for me because I was unable to do some of the things I used to do. Staying home alone can be lonely and angering as well. At least we have the internet. Without that outreach I would hate to think how worse it could get. Welcome and I hope you find support and friendship here.

I can relate to feeling scared about being alone forever. I am tired of my depression and loneliness. Coming here can help with some of the loneliness. I'm sorry about your dad and best friend. That must have been really hard.

((((((djharg))))))

I am so very sorry about the loss of your father, and your best friend, all in the same year. (Or were you saying your father was the best friend?) Either way, a huge loss, and I am so sorry.

I am sorry for your pain -- I am not ill, but the way things have developed in my life, I have worried for several years now that I will be alone for the rest of my life, so I think I can relate on that level.

Please hang in there.

Sending gentle hugs of support.


P.S. Would your illness allow for a dog? Or, if walking is a problem, a cat, or other pet? Animal shelters are overflowing with loving creatures who are even more desperate and scared than we are.

P.P.S.

Just read your "About Me" -- your dog lived to be 29?????

Holy COW, that has GOT to be a record!!

Again I can relate when i was ill one of my so called mates didnt bother to call in to see how i was, i wasnt feeling well enough to go out to the pubs and it was then i realised he was only looking for a drinking buddy and not a friend he couldnt go out of his way to see how i was, anyway i believe what goes around comes around and in time of need on his part i will be busy doing other things.
take care.

I feel the same way and im only 34. I do have family but have very few friends, no wife or gf, not even a dog. Did you mean to say 29? That is a very long time for a dog.

I'm so sorry that u feel alone but I understand. Since I had to quit work due to my health I feel so disconnected from the world. I miss having a life. I'm here if u need to talk

I had thought about starting a post similar to yours but then I read yours and realized you said some similar things.

I have periods of loneliness now, but when I was a party girl I had all the friends a girl could want.

When I settled down and stopped going out each weekend and a few times a week day I started drifting from my friends.

Plus I was a teacher and where I am from you had to fit into a box of what a teacher should act and look like. I can remember going out with friends and they were drinking wine with their meals or smoking cigarettes and I couldn't do either in public.

My dad passed seven years ago and my mom a little over a month ago. My best friend died fifteen years ago and I still miss her like yesterday.

I do understand what you are talking about when you said you knew a lot of people when you had drinking and drug issues.

In this particular case I vote yes for lonliness over drinking and drugs. You will eventually meet new friends they will just be from a different walk of life that doesn't include d and d.

Maybe try getting yourself involved in activities that one allows you to have fun and two allows you the possibility to meet people.

I don't know what you have in your area, but I would have no problem going to a library alone or a bowling alley. I usually meet poeple at the library but since I'm married and they are flirts they don't count as possible friend material.

Yeah, I had a so called group of friends that seemed to disappear when I had a stroke and could not longer participate at the same level. I am assuming it was because of finances. I could be wrong. At church i have noticed sometimes my fellow volunteers, lose patience, because I do not process things as fast as they do. You are not alone in this feeling.