Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Lonely, depressed, dying on the inside

JGOPPE
JGOPPE

Hey all, new user here. Recently seperated with partner of 25 yrs. Four kids together. Left day after Father's day. Been living in hotel since. I've had a hard time with not living with my kids and seeing them daily since the beginning, but it wasn't constant. Now it's constant and getting worse. I find myself crying constantly, like right now! I cry at work, in the car, at the store, everywhere. It's just so debilitating and I have absolutely no control over it. I work as many hours as I possibly can just to fill the time. If I'm not working I just drive and drive. One day I woke up and drove from MA to Maine and back. 500 miles! I dread going to the empty hotel room. I don't sleep. I honestly don't know what my state of mind is. Am I lonely, depressed, both. I've always been a really strong person but I'm not sure I can get through this one..

urbangardener
urbangardener
You are in a difficult period. But you can get through this. If you are sure this separation is permanent, get an apartment or house so you have a real home. Get a good attorney so you get custody rights to have the kids with you at times if they are under age 18. Not seeing you is hard on them, too. If you are feeling depressed, please seek mental health help. 25 years is a long time and this is a huge change. It’s natural to feel out of sorts with this huge change. There are divorce recovery groups that can be very helpful, usually in churches. This is your time to rediscover your old self and find a new way of life. That’s why I suggest getting an apartment or rental home now instead of a lonely hotel. I wish you well.
Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I can relate.....My wife left me after a 24 year marriage, After the initial shock, I began buildng a new life. 5 years later, I am happier now then I have ever been.

If you need to talk, pm me.

God Bless
RoboticIncel
RoboticIncel
I wish you luck buddy.
Able76
Able76
That’s a picture of myself. Instead of 4 kids I have one daughter . We still sharing the house for a couple of more months but at the end of the school year she’s moving a 1000 miles away with my sweet baby girl. I know the worse is still to come once they leave. Like you I consider myself strong but I’m not sure anymore. It’s hard.
JGOPPE
JGOPPE
Jesus, can't believe it's been 4 months since I wrote that!
Well I'm doing no better. Actually has just gotten worse and harder.
So..yeah
Able76
Able76
Hang in there buddy! I wish I can tell you is going to be easier. That’s my main concern, I know will be even worse. At least for me. But remain hopeful.
JGOPPE
JGOPPE
Yeah your daughter being that far away is going to suck!
You hang in as well!
Able76
Able76
I’m trying my best to process this. Her well-being my only concern. I know I might ending up moving close to her as well but that’s something I have to think very carefully. I mean, a part of me wants to stay close but the common sense and reality checker side tells me to think twice before throwing away the little I have left and chase my daughter around the country. Either way it will be tough.
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