she hurt you once, that should be enough indication that she isn't right for you. give up on her. if she wants to be with you, she will contact you. otherwise, move on with your life. get out and enjoy living. someone better will come along. you cant spend your days worrying about someone that doesn't feel the same about you. it isn't worth it

ugh, that's tough. I'm sorry. Honestly, texting her is not a good idea. If she's hurt you recently (I would consider a month or two recent) and you already feel as though she will just ignore the text, it's really only setting you up for more hurt.

I feel so awful right now. I just want to be a good boyfriend to someone I love, but I only think about her. I've lost her friendship and two other good friendships because of this obsession. My life is finally getting together with getting a job and maybe joining the air force. I'm just lonely though. I haven't talked to her in over a month, but the way things have happened just makes me feel like a horrible person.

I think you could send her a card or flowers-with just a note that you hope she had a good one..that way she will know you are still thinking about her and then we will see if she gets back in touch with you

I don't believe this is the right person for you. People who love and care about us, don't hurt us like that. The right person is out there and the more time you waste on someone who isn't right for you, the longer it will take for the right person to enter your life. Hugs

She must be one pretty, sweet girl! But she obviously ain't into you, or you came off too intense and too needy, so you scared or annoyed her off. Think of someone or something else. Get yourself busy, mentally and emotionally involved, in something else. And physically exercise. It helps, believe me.

Otherwise, she'd be with you.

respectfully i say this you don't honor yourself, never put yourself in a position giving someone else the ability to hurt you, she not only doesn't want your birthday wishes she doesn't deserve it, get intuned with what's going on within you chasing something that hasn't proven worthiness, don't u realize how special you are an you deserve an equal relationship with someone that desires you just as much as you them,, by sending this woman anything you could be looked upon as some stalker, how normal is this pattern for you wanting someone that doesn't share the same interest? i'm not judging but i've been there an when i realized my worth i stopped seeking outward affection from uninterested ppl, before you go in another relationship you really need to look within you, what are u really seeking?

Yeah. She would be with me and she wouldn't hurt me if she cared. I still care about her though.

Monday night I texted her that I'm sorry about how things went down, that I feel like my life is finally getting together, but this whole situation with her feels like it's been following me despite nothing new happening, that I've lost friendships over it. And I told her happy early birthday and good luck on her tests.

I probably could have said better things, but I was feeling pretty bad at the time, and at least I didn't take anything out on her personally. And of course she didn't reply. I actually felt good about sending the text.

I had messaged one of my lost friends about a week ago after I saw he unfriended me asking why he did it, but if he doesn't want to talk about it it's okay because I have more important things to worry about. He didn't reply until the day after I sent that text to Kat. All he said was, "You do have better things to worry about - like not fucking with Kat."

I was pretty mad about that. He didn't talk anymore to me. I told him that he was there when I was feeling suicidal, but after he heard about my obsession with Kat, he labeled me as disgusting like Vince did. I told him that I haven't even said anything to her in a long while. I asked him how am I fucking with her. He is big on social justice and stuff, so I told him that I understand that he wants to fight rape culture or whatever, but he is just scapegoating me instead of actually solving the problem. And I asked him if he actually wants to talk instead of just treating me like a permanent problem, and if he doesn't actually want to talk that he can fuck off. Fuck he made me so mad.

Today nothing happened.

I don't know. All I really have to worry about is working. I have some good friends still that don't treat me like trash for petty reasons like getting a justice boner off of it.

I should get exercising again. I have been slacking after starting work.

Yeah, I'm not really chasing her anymore. I just had to get my feelings out. I don't enjoy feeling like I'm a problem.

Aww... I'm sorry man.. I hope you are feeling a little better right now