Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Lonely and Depressed and scared!

maureen53
maureen53
Hi my name is Maureen. I guess I'm writing this because I really have no one to talk to or listen or maybe even cares. I'm going through kidney surgery next week and I'm really scared. Both my kidneys are bad so they have to do one at a time. I have a husband that really doesn't understand me and three kids. Two daughters and a son which I don't really hear that much from my son because he's married and I really don't think his wife is that crazy about me. I have a brother and a sister and none of us talk. Friends I really have none that I could ever trust because I was stupid and alot of them took advantage of me because I do have a good heart. I even tried to get into this facebook thing and had about one hundred and sixty eight friends alot were people I went to school with. I guess it's depressing when you get on there everyday and you don't have anyone that left you a message. I love animals and have two dogs and two cats that are so much company to me. Don't know what I would do without them. Well I guess it just really feels good to write my feeling down.
shur1
shur1
Maureen I am sorry that you are going through so much right now with your up coming surgery I pray that god will give you the peace needed to help sustain you during this difficult time in your life. Know that you truly are not alone my prayers to you and that you will find strength and inner peace to face this surgery hug your furry companions they are there to comfort you now they truly know when you are hurting


God bless
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maureen.

I'm so sorry.

I love animals as well, and often my cat is the only thing I have.

Wanted to wish you the very best for your kidney sugergey. That is a huge deal, and I'm so sorry your family is not supportive.

I am miserable because I have no family -- but I suppose having a family that doesn't support you or show adequate caring is just as lonely.

We're complete strangers, but my heart goes out to you.

Hug your darling dogs and cats.

Wishing you the very very best.

WMH
maureen53
maureen53
Thankyou so much for writing. Just reading these couple of letters are making me cry. I so wish I had some caring people in my life. If it were not for my husband I would feel all alone. Yet even though he is here I feel alone anyways because he really doesn't talk to me that much. It just feels good to know that there are other people out there like me too. Thanks again for caring enough to write. Thankyou for the prayers my surgery is next Thursday.
shur1
shur1
Let us know how your recovery is going when you return home after surgery .

God bless you

Will send a prayer your way on Thursday for you

Hugs to you....
maureen53
maureen53
Thankyou so much. I know it's next Thursday but I'm so nervous already. Took a xanax and it really doesn't seem to help all. Thankyou for the prayers I will need them. A month after this surgery if everthing goes ok the other kidney hs to be done. Thanks for thinking of me.
etherize
etherize
Hi Maureen, just wanted to say I am sending you all my best wishes and hopes for a successful surgery and a speedy recovery.

I can relate to your feelings of loneliness even though you are married. My husband is a wonderful guy, but he keeps himself very busy with his job and his hobby.

I also don't have any friends, and I stopped going on Facebook because it was too depressing to read about everybody else's fabulous life when I am so blue. Oh, and I adore my two cats, who are my biggest companions.

So yes, I can relate to a lot of what you wrote. Please feel free to send me a message any time you want to talk; I'm online a lot and I'm a good listener. :-) I will be thinking of you as you prepare for your surgery. {{{{Hugs!!}}}}
maureen53
maureen53
Thankyou I use to go on facebook to and I guess because of all of my problems friends just stopped writing to me. The sad thing was even a couple that are related by marriage to my son. I have three kids but they are grown and have lives of their own. It is very hard for them to understand the way I am. I guess my depression goes on to childhood and my parents treating my sister better then me. I have a brother too and he was favored over me. Today none of us talk to each which is rather sad since life is so short. I have tried with my bother but I never get a answer. My sister is eleven years younger then me and things she is so much better.I hope you keep writing to me too. Your notes mean so much to me. Thankyou
maureen53
maureen53
Today I'm doing a little better since I got on this website and found there are people out there like me. My surgery still scares me and it's only six days away. I don't really count the day of the surgery. I was told it would take about five hours. That seem like such a long time to be put under expecially since my hysterectomy only took a hour a half. I hope everyone on here stays well and takes care of themselfs. Funny I was always the one that thought of others now those people even my brother and sister could care less about me. I guess I do find peace in knowing I have always been a good person no regrets.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I understand a lot of what you're going through - I'm glad you found this board and hope that it helps you through. I have a family, and like you, I was always the one who would do anything to help people. But whenever I was in crisis - no one was ever there. That really does hurt. I'm very much alone and in a terrible position right now too. I can relate to you about how you feel about your pets. My three dogs are my heart and soul and all I ask anymore is that I can hang onto them. So I understand. Soon your surgery will be all over, this is just the hard part, beforehand. Keep us updated on how you're doing!
maureen53
maureen53
Thankyou too it does sounds like we have a lot in common when it comes to families. It does hurt but it is out of my hands the way they treat me. Like my therapist said the ones with the good hearts are usually taken advantage of. Thank God I found this site and we can all help each other. I don't know about you but I hate it when the holidays get here. It use to be a big family gathering now it is just my three kids and husband. Then my kids leave and it's just us two. Very lonely and normally I lay in bed on Christmas and cry. I think if I get through this surgery I will make it a point to be glad that day that i'm still here to enjoy it.
maureen53
maureen53
Well today is really horrible for me. I don't even know where to go from here. The hospital called this morning with the news that the tube in my kidney will be put in on Wednesday and the surgery done on Thursday. The doctor said he would call after he reviewed the ct scan which they could not find. They just don't understand about my panic attacks, depression and fibro. or do they just not care. I have so much to do right now and I find myself just shaking and crying and alone. My husband is here but he just does not say anything because he knows how upset I am. If I'm not here for any of you right now please understand and I will make it up to you after the surgery. Right now that is all I can think about and wonder how I will get through this. Thankyou for the hugs and notes they help alot.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Maureen,
I know how you feel. I am not married or anything but I often feel lonely even in the presence of "friends" and family around me for different reasons. I also agree with your "facebook" comment. No worries, all will be well. I wish you good luck on your sugery. Have no fear and know that there are people that care and support you!
maureen53
maureen53
Thankyou so much for your support on my surgery. I'm still scared but I don't feel so all alone thanks to all of you.
maureen53
maureen53
Today is so bad for me. Coming off the three pills that make my mouth so dry is really hard. So I'm hurting from my kidney and my fibro. My kids are avoiding me because they are affraid I might ask them to help out alittle. Then my husband is sitting in front of the T.V. acting like I don't exist or just trying not to help me out since the more I do the more pain i'm in. I'm so tired of selfish people and that is all I have dealt with in my life. My surgery is serious you think that they would care. My husband who is twelve years older then me had cancer ten years ago and I was there for him. This is so difficult thinking about the surgery and not talking to anyone.
maureen53
maureen53
I had to make a couple of hugh decisions that I don't know are right. I told my son this morning I really did not want his wife at my surgery. I know deep down she does not like me so why would I want her there. I also told my husband to stay home. He does nothing to help me out and threw this whole marriage everything has been about him and what he wanted. So I am taking my two daughters with me. I decided to probally stay in the hospital the two nights instead of just the one because I really don't want to come home with a tube in my back and watch him do nothing. I can't understand how I ended up like this. I am becoming so bitter because of the way I let everyone treat me.