Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Lonely all the time

rhwhitmore2001
rhwhitmore2001

Even when I have a significant other and a child who is with me all the time that's 8 years old? I home school her right now and woth her 24/7, but I'm also very lonely when my fiancé or SO is home. We sleep in separate rooms and the only person it seems to bother is me. The first year and a half was good and then it started going to s**t after our daughter was about 6 months old. I know he is a narcissistic introvert, but I still want to be with him. I know I should leave and not look back but I don't have a way to do that right now and idk if I really ever will. I don't want to fight over our daughter and that's exactly what he'll do if I leave and take her with me. I've been on that position before but I had a place to go and was the one with the income. This time it's him that has the income and place for her. He just wouldn't take care of her like she needs and he doesn't seem to care that Im a great mother. I've raised 2 of 3 older kids for the most part by myself for 12 years b4 he and I met 9 years ago. I just want to know why he thinks I deserve the kind of treatment he's dishing out. At times I just want to close my eyes and not wake up, but it's not that easy cause I don't drink or do drugs, never really have. And I don't even drive or get violent and aggressive emotionally or otherwise. Any help or ideas on how I can forgive myself for allowing him to do this to me as well as forgiving him all the time more so I can keep my dignity and wits about me a little longer would be greatly appreciated.  Thanks

Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Seems that if you were able then his troubles would be just that, HIS. There's more than physical abuse and his manipulation falls under that other category. Of course telling the other person how they've made you feel is our first logical choice unless you know that will just cause you more trouble. I don't know all the aspects of how things work in your home but walking on eggs sounds like it may be a description that works for you. Prayers for peace in your home. Look into domestic violence support groups and talk with a volunteer a little while.
Cora_Belle
Cora_Belle
You "deserve" the treatment because YOU allow it.

YOU chose to be with a "narcissistic introvert".

YOU know you should leave but "don't have a way to do that right". And apparently YOU aren't laying foundation and planning an exit strategy.

You even acknowledge that you know you allow him to do this to you.

Nothing changes if nothing changes and YOU have to be the one to make the changes.