Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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hh_xo
hh_xo

I am a new mother and live with my boyfriend and his parents and his sister. You would think that I have the opposite problem of being lonely but I am so isolated and tired of dealing with everyone's crazy drama I feel like I'm constantly in panic mode. My son will be 1 in September and the negative energy in this house is palpable. My boyfriend doesn't care about the fact that our son is being exposed to others toxicity, he just thinks I want to take our son away from him. No. I just want to remove my baby and myself from a ridiculous and unnecessary situation. His sisters ex is a meth user, has untreated PTSD, as has unexpected and violently attacked her. But lo and behold! They are back together and according to her "she will bring whoever the fuck she wants to this house." So now I'm in flight mode, currently packing my babies stuff, and leaving for at least a couple days until we can get some damn clarification on what's important. 

akacountrygirl
akacountrygirl
Hi. I hate to see a family divided but I must admit, you leaving seems like the best solution. Unless your bf can come up with a better living situation I would put the relationship on hold. What scares me is that he thinks all of the ciaos in that house in normal. He may turn out to be just as much of an abuser as the rest of them. I pray that he is not.
You have a child now and what is most important is providing him with a healthy up bringing where he/she will be safe and loved. Do what you must be don't stay at his parents house. Go to a shelter if necessary, they will help you get on your own two feet. best wishes.
PS I am here for you any time you need to talk. I went through years of the same crap because I had no where else to go and didn't have enough self esteem to fight for better. I eventually got out, went to college, graduated and raised my son alone. It was well worth it.
hh_xo
hh_xo
Thank you so much for your reply. As of right now his sister took the key to her moms car, conveniently where my sons car seat is located so we are stuck once again. My mom is coming to save us but not until later this afternoon thank god. I'm so happy for you and your son, and thank you for the confidence boost I needed. I feel tremendous guilt for making my son pick up and move but he's so young I pray he won't remember.
getfuzzy2
getfuzzy2
I agree that it is not the ideal situation to split up a family, but your number one responsibility is to take care of your child and protect them from the bad behavior your current living conditions present. Obviously your ability to provide and afford alternative housing may play into what your options are, but, in the end, the safety and wellbeing of your child is critical.