I know its hard to fine True Friends I am a Caregiver for some Family Members and I live with them. I don't have many Friends but You need to get out like places you enjoy, actives You like to etc

Sincerely
alive47

Hi, don't mean to be difficult but I enjoy church....still no luck with friendship.

Hello. My heart goes out to you. I do know what it's like to feel lonely. I am wondering if the fact that your ex did keep you isolated may have something to do with it? After all, you did trust and confide in her... not only did she abuse that, but in effect cut you off from others. For some it is so hard to reach out to other people (as you said ...rejection is so hard. )

Sometimes just starting small... smiling, minor chit chat and short conversations is a way to get more comfortable with others. It makes it easier to open up and maybe eventually find another who is easy to confide in. You are in my thoughts and prayers.

Twiceborn.

You have an interest in church and only church. You want to meet people.
Maybe try going to your church and basking if you can volunteer to help the church. Depending on size. They might need things done. It may be 2 or 1 day for a few hours. That is a start.

If not a community college might have classes that interest you. People of all ages go to community college.

Go places you can. What you can do with your other troubles. Like i can't do anything i just listed. So work with in your means. Also much like this forum their is lots of forums out there to meet talk and learn things.

God be with you.
I pray for you.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YQIBIW6eT8I&index=32&list=WL&t=0s

Hi, my heart goes out to you....I know how you feel, true friendships are really hard to find, especially ones where you can connect with them and they understand you. I struggle with this too, actually I feel I can be better friends with guys than girls because girls are so catty to other girls. Try to keep doing things you enjoy and be around others who enjoy the same things and you just never know when a friendship may develop.

I'm sorry you are going through this difficult time. As unto said volunteering at church does keep you connected and it feels good to do something that helps the church. I like bingo, so I volunteered there. You may also find volunteering in an area of expertise or something you like will get you out of the house and conversing with others.

Love reading all your replies. It's amazing how good it is that someone even read what I wrote. I also have a problem with depression. I was married for 12 years and and pretty much 10 years too long. She cheated on me continually and didn't try to hide it but rubbed my face in it. I had children with her and I stayed married because I couldn't bear the thought of not living with my kids. They are the one plus that came from that nightmare if a marriage. Eventually she caused me so much shame from cheating and the way she allowed her daughter to treat me at the age of 12 well I knew there was nothing left for me and I filed for divorce. Had no idea how much I was damaged by her.
I still wanted a close relationship with a woman but I was so messed up I didn't think I could live up to any women's standards.
I think I could write a book about my life.
At church I'm working in childrens church. Checking them in and doing whatever the youth pastor needs, then check them back out when church is done. One thing I love about children is their openness and acceptance. And of course thier brutal honestly is adorable.
I still lack whatever people have that allows them to connect with each other, I never seem to be able to squeeze my way into any group.
One thing for sure. If Jesus hadn't come to my rescue as a teenager I would not have made it through life.

The video linked by bobinmain is very good. I reasoned it out with myself that no one is better than anyone else and I'm just as good as the next guy. I believe that but so far don't know how to actually feel it