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lets get down to reality

keepitsimple39
keepitsimple39
seriously, every time i try to watch one of these romantic movies, it just makes me sick. i understand that its a movie and its all suppose to be entertaining, but its all total bull-oney. lets talk reality, if a lady tells you to get lost, that doesnt mean you go out of your way to try and get her back. reality says if you try and get her back, most likely you will get arrested for harassment. go to her work with flowers to plead for forgiveness will get you arrested. so YES i understand they are just movies, but man, how ridiculous are the messages they send? why dont they make a movie about a real relationship and the break ups involved, they wont. why? because it wouldnt sell, so reality is blurred to make money, makes me sick
deleted_user
deleted_user
Keep - watch the movie the "Break up" that is pretty realistic. I don't know about anyone esle and maybe I am a romantic but, I would love a guy to fight for me (get me back)...my ex didn;t and no he is an ex.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with you very much Keep.

I saw one movie with Jennifer Aniston and some guy and even though it was supposed to be a romance, it was basically a stalker movie!!!!! It was like a stalker's fantasy. Totally ridiculous.

And I get mad about other movies too because I feel like they are mocking those of us who don't live happily ever after.
indynanna
indynanna
Movies are not realistic at all. Some of these themes they come up with are stupid. Real life is so much different, I think tihis is why so many young couples split up, becasue they think that what they watch is reality, but in fact, its totally the opposite of what any relationship is.
looney1
looney1
I reckon my ex watched too much Home and Away - a soapie here in Oz (yes, a guy really!). He seemed to think it was real life and loved to create dramas, breakups and reconciliations. I'm over it!
deleted_user
deleted_user
They should have a real reality show where the ending is not so happy. Years of loneliness and dealing with depression.
charliegirl29
charliegirl29
It wouldn't make money
Nina2011
Nina2011
totally agree with you. this is why i watch soaps, the plot quality is sometimes low but at least the drama is more, like real life - ie it shows that people hurt in these situations. i guess that romcom schmaltz is like dessert, you have to limit your intake sensibly and sensitively :-/
immarcie
immarcie
Totally agree. real life is not always living happily ever after!!

It's really great to hear a guy say what you did, I'm glad you did!!!
People seem to think it's just a woman's thing but personally, I think there's a lot of fellas that feel like you do, whether they admit it or not!!!

marcie
deleted_user
deleted_user
I think u may be misunderstanding what a lot of these romantic movies are all about, and, it is the same with soap operas. I'll explain. The unreality part of, the things the romantic couples say and do, is "actually" what a person would "only" be "thinking" in their mind without actually ever saying or doing it. That way we (the audience) are not only seeing some reality as in their situations, but we are also seeing and hearing the things the couple "only think in their mind" as in dreaming or hoping for something that they know "reality" says will never happen.
Matt219
Matt219
I totally get what you're saying, keep. Romantic movies have always bothered me for the exact same reason. I hate how wonderful they make relationships out to be when in reality, things are never that great. Now-a-days watching these kind of movies, where everyone is so happy and have wonderful romantic lives, just depresses me. I tend to steer clear of them now.
DDebbbie
DDebbbie
I agree Keep! It was revelation to me years ago when I realized that what so many movies potrayed, 'that love is all you need', was a bunch of crapola. :) Since I was heavily neglected growing up, I really believed these movies. It took years of heartache and reality before I understood that 'that falling in love' feeling is not what makes a relationship work. Love is a decision that has to be made every day and is almost impossible if you have not been loved growing up, unless you have been successful in years of therepy.

I admit though, I still watch the sappy romantic movies, but now I am aware that they are completely fantasy and not realitiy.
keepitsimple39
keepitsimple39
i am glad that there are other people that feel the way i do, i thought i was alone on this one. its cool to read everyone's perspective on this, the truth is i have never been in love ever. as a child growing up i was treated like crap from pretty much everyone, i was and am the black sheep. so i dont even know if i am capable of loving anyone cause i dont know what it is, or how it feels. so yea when i see these sappy movies i think, really? is that all it takes? then reality kicks me in the butt, it reminds me that its all fantasy
itsjustdj
itsjustdj
It is so funny you guys are talking about this. I recently watched "He's Just Not That Into You" for the first time & according to that movie, when it comes to the opposite sex, all women are idiots & all men are jerks. Hmmm...just as I suspected. No offense meant to anyone. Don't watch those kinds of movies often - I usually stick to dramas - but guess I would rather see the happy, hopeful fantasy if I want to be entertained.