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Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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ts1050 01/10/2018

I still have to give my friend his christmas gift but within the last month, he has stopped reaching out to me, ignored my calls and texts, but continues to keep in touch with our mutual friends. With that in mind, Im done trying to keep in touch at the moment because he doesnt reciprocate, even when I try asking him over text if hes gonna get his present from my house/the means of giving it to him, he ignores me. For god's sake, its his gift and its like pulling teeth just getting him to get it from me. Knowing all this, should I still try to give him his gift, leave it on his front porch, or even give him his gift at all? He gave me my gift already, but left it in my mailbox (which he doesnt have so I cant leave his gift in it) so I never saw him. If he wants nothing to do with me right now, he could still just get his gift from me and go home as soon as he gets it. This whole situation has annoyed me to not even want to give it to him, but I am still willing to just drop it off at his house, if thats the last straw.

Jillsaundars 01/11/2018

Mmm.... Perhaps just do what would make you feel ok

If not giving it to him means you'll feel less put out great

If dropping it off means you can detach and let go great

Sorry to hear he's ghosting you.

When my when ghosted me I had some of his stuff and I messaged him to ask to give it back. Which would have been nice to know he was ok and to wrap up loose ends, but no response.

I just decided fck him and kept his stuff. I'm not gonna be accused of harassing someone

ts1050 01/11/2018

Update: I delivered the gift to his house today when no one was home, but only gave him 1 of 3 things I originally planned on giving to him. Not to sound petty, but currently waiting for a "thank you", but if he chooses to be an asshole and remain a "ghost", I probably won't even get a thank you.

Jillsaundars 01/11/2018

Well I always live in hope that others have a totally different understanding and experience of life. And that he's in hospital or too severely depressed to respond. And he'll be in touch when his drama blows over

So you know maybe it will work out down the line for you. Sometimes people have friends who are about six months then dissapear a year before they hang out another two years before there gone again and they are ok with this flow.

But if he is ghosting you then fck him, not worth wasting another moment on

ts1050 01/12/2018

Its funny that you say that about having a friend that basically comes and goes because that is how he seems to be acting since 2 summers ago. Although, that had to do with him stressed out over my frustration with him over his lack of communication with me all of a sudden. Since then, he has been coming an going with disagreements we had and him becoming less of a friend gradually. I gotta thank you for understanding where I come from and can relate to me!! Idk what his problem is now, but its his problem and not mine so if he comes around again then we'll see. Another update, he did eventually thank me for the gift but that was it; no conversation or anything.

Jillsaundars 01/12/2018

(((( hugs. ))))

Well you got a thanks, so maybe he'll be back when his heads sorted hey hun

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