Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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foreverstudent 02/24/2009

So, I'm 22 years old and have about a year and a half left until I graduate college. I have never been in a meaningful relationship but all of my friends have just about. I have been on a few dates here and there but nothing serious. When I was younger, about 3 years ago or so I use to be a guy who would pride myself on not needing a girl to make myself happy. And for a time in my life that was absolutely true. I would see my friends with their girlfriends and not think twice about it. However now things have changed. I'm not sure what has changed really but things have really changed. I can't really function because my thoughts are consumed with the fact that I'm alone and see no way out. There is nothing more in the world that I want than to meet a girl and do whatever I can to make her the happiest girl in the world. I have developed a fear of being home alone, I basically cannot sit here by myself. I spend a lot of time by myself and it's become more than I can handle. If I sit alone it's only a matter of time before I start thinking how I need to get use to it then my mind starts racing until I breakdown and cry.

Is there anyone out there like me? How do you deal with this?

deleted_user 02/24/2009

You may not think of me in the same category, but I feel like I'm reading my own thoughts.

I never cared for the idea of being with someone when I watch all my friends date. But now the idea of being with someone with an acutal caring factor in it is just thought consuming. It never really leaves my mind. I hate being alone like this...it's different than when you aren't with friends for long amounts of time; it's really something deeper that hurts.

deleted_user 02/25/2009

I feel the SAME way! I hate being alone. Whenever I have free time, I'm alone. I have work friends, but they don't "get" me or really like the same things I do. All I want more than anything right now (aside from doing well in school) is a boyf. I've been on lots of dates, but the guys usually don't live up to my standards. The last relationship I was in was unhealthy. I guess we just have to stay busy, focus on school (I'm 19 and in college too), and stay active looking for the right person. I joined lots of online dating sites. Also, if you're 22 you could try going to bars and meeting people there.

deleted_user 02/25/2009

Well obviously since you responded to my post and then wrote a very similar post I feel exactly the same way. As you already read in mine I too prided myself thinking that I did not need a guy to make me happy, but since all my friends have been in meaningful relationships I feel like I am just out on my own. I hope things start to get better for us because I hate the feeling of loneliness.

deleted_user 02/25/2009

The last section about the thoughts becoming pretty much consuming and feeling you just need to deal with it kills me as well. I can go nearly a week or so feeling ok in myself, slowly the desire to be around someone who understands me or cares about what I'm doing and vise versa becomes very pressing. I start scouring sites looking for something I can say 'yeh, they'll understand' and never find it.

I don't so much break down but I sit at my pc for hours into the early hours of the morning if it's very bad, feeling as though going to bed will just mean waking up to another day alone.

Oh and the girls I do get close to don't even want to give me a chance romantically, mental illness or a lack of life achievement seem to put them off.

I don't come across negative at all in person. Most people even say I'm funny. I'll be damned if I know why I repel people so badly.

awakendwoman 02/26/2009

Hang int here, that right person will come along.... But you do realize the only person that can truly make you happy is you. No one can do it for you. If your lonly, get out and meet people. Theres only one way for that to happen is to get yourself out there. Theres tons of dating sites, groups to join....making any lasting relationship will take time. But you have to start by taking a big step towards it. Only you canmake that happen, but you have to really put yourself out there. It can be scary, but you can do it....

deleted_user 02/28/2009

WOW!!! have just recently joined this site and this group but so far this is the best example of how i feel basically every other day. I have great friends but sometimes i dont want to burden them with everything i am going through. i have been abused more than once and i am the typical girl that wonders when i will find the one guy that will treat me right. I am the kind of person that just likes to be held and not having a "special someone" there is hard especially when i am going through one of my rough nights when i just sit in my room and cry. Its even harder because i live on my own and i only have a turtle (which doesnt really cuddle..lol)!!! It is really nice to know im not the only on out there that is experiencing the same lonely feeling as myself. I really appreciate your post because it helps knowing im not the only one, especially be 22 years old and 1.5 til graduation!!!!
Thanks again!!! :)

deleted_user 03/04/2009

I wonder if there is something to this, cause there's definitely a pattern showing here. I used to pride myself on being okay being alone, but now I think that was just being dishonest with myself because I have always been alone and it was never by choice.

Sometimes I feel like I need to change things now because the longer I stay in the comfortable safety of being single, the more entrenched I will become in it. People say, "Oh you're young. You'll meet someone someday I promise." That's a total line of BS because there are no guarantees in life.

Sorry, I meant for this to be a little more positive than it turned out.

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