Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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a141994 02/12/2013

i want to be as straight forward as i possible, i want to be as honest as possible, i just want help. i feel like such a loser for even having to vent my problems, i look at people out there who just seem to have everything going for them, they're just focused on their lives and improving. i want to be them so bad, but i'm not and i dnt have the energy anymore. in the pst i've never been a sociable person but i at the least had good grades in school. now i still have nobody but i'm in college now and i dnt what the f*ck is going on over there. idk i feel soo much right now, i just dnt know how to put it into words. i dnt want you guys on here to view me as this sad guy who just needs help. i dnt deserve help, i'm a bad person you know? i'm defective and everything that happens to me is because of me, i'm the problem and i know that. i want to be better , it hurts me to know that i'm the way i am. well why dnt you just change? i can never answer that truthfully, but i do try just so you know i try to get out there and do exercise and do my hw and talk to people, but it doesn't work i always end up stopping cause there never seems to be any results. i just want someone to be there o root for me, i dnt want o be own cheerleader.why i'm writing here today? idk i just wanted to let someone know about me and get some stuff out

bobbigurl 02/12/2013

first to be very honest, the "great" lives you see others living are fronts because everyone has struggles, challenges, and somber or sad moods. No one wants to say my life is hard or it's unhappy, so don't think everything is great for everyone else but you. You are not alone, you are always going to be in a constant struggle to keep happy, If you can't talk to your friends or family(which I struggle with, cause I don't want my family to see I am still sad) then be glad that you, along with the rest of us, have this website to vent and encourage and be encouraged. And never give up!

a141994 02/13/2013

I just want the ability to mask my sadness like the rest of them, I hate crying and walking around with a frown and let's be honest after a certain point people dnt want to hear ur problems, they have their own to deal with. I want to be like them because it seems like they can shut out their emotions or atleast people who make them feel a certain way. I'm glad we can relate on the whole of not telling our families of our issues, I feel it does make them view me a certain way if they see me crying all the time, so I just hide it. And this site is very good for help, idk....thankyou for offering advice bobbigurl, I appreciate you soo much for doing that for me

turtled 02/13/2013

Sorry you're going through a rough time, but try to keep your chin up~

Sometimes you just need time to heal and recover. I remember you were upset about someone awhile back. Take some time to rebuild your boundaries and focus on you. It might take a long time and a lot of struggle but you will get your center back.

Being emotionally independent is all about re-framing your mindset. If I were you, I'd start by forgiving yourself and not blaming yourself for everything. If you keep viewing yourself as defective and undeserving, you will be just that.

Like bobbigurl said most people are putting up a front. I partly agree with that. I think you could learn something though: "Fake it 'till you make it." You say you walk around with a frown? Try walking around with a smile instead, even if you have to work really hard to force it. It's like learning anything new, you gotta keep working at it until it's natural.

Anyway, don't feel bad about venting your true feelings that's what we're here for. Keep getting stronger and lifting your chin up higher every day. If you need our support don't hesitate. And remember to relax, heal, enjoy things that you have fun doing~

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