Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
When I'm at the book store I will send you the titles.
I love that. My problem is that I'm great with strangers and people I don't know. I'm great at making small talk about the weather! sports! current events, etc.
My difficulty is going the next step and developing a closer friendship with someone. It 's as if I pull away as the friendship developed.
My job i work on my own, so i don't have to deal with people unless i have too. thats the best thing about my job.
Something I learned long ago. I used to come home from work on Friday and not go back out or have any kind of contact with anyone till I went back to work on Monday morning. That is not healthy. Even worse, it's also addictive. You get to a point where you really dont want to spend time with others. It feels like it's too much trouble. You crave the silence. Like I said it's addictive. When I would go visit my family sometimes on the weekend, after 30 minutes, I would be climbing the wall.
Wow.....only one extrovert. That's interesting.
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No, I'm not shy.
I'm listening.
I am observing.
I can't stand small talk, but I'll talk about life for hours.
I'd rather be with a few close friends then with a crowd of people I don't know.
Respect that I am reserved.
and if I open myself up to you, know that means you're very special to me.
I work in the wedding business, as a videographer and photographer, and I work as a security officer to help fill in the cracks financially between wedding gigs.
Neither job requires me to talk that much. Both jobs require me to watch and listen, which I like. I'm very perceptive.
I like weddings more than being a security officer. At a wedding, people are generally on their best behavior. In a security gatehouse to a gated community, which is 99% of the security company's business, I see people at their worst. I'm the guy who is keeping them from where they want to be, the procedures for determing whether they are allowed to enter the community are complex, and they all think they're special, I should know them, and they deserve preferential treatment to sidestep the process.
Quiet by Cain
The overnight graveyard shift in that position is the best way to get away from people altogether, but I find that shift lonely, and it reeks havoc with my sleep biorythms. I'm not an early riser, and mornings at these gatehouses are extremely chaotic, with not only guests but contractors like lawn care and pool cleaners all trying to get in at the same time, so the evening shift has proven to be the only at least semi-agreeable shift for me. A few hours of chaos, then quiet bliss the rest of the evening.
I only got this security guard job because it was the only employer I could find that was willing to schedule me on a week-to-week basis around my free-lance assignments which pay better but are sadly sporadic, not steady enough to alone support me financially. Working for a retail chain like Wal-Mart was not an option, because they've got you scheduled days, nights, weekends, holidays, whenever they need you, if you need the job, you have to work it, and they pay squat.
Security is hardly a life's ambition, and if something comes along that pays better, I'm out of it.