If you're talking about emotional numbness, that's exactly what I'm going through right now. I know the feeling of being alone and helpless all too well. I want a girlfriend, social life, etc. but just can't find the motivation to get me out there. Basically, I'm stuck in a very tough spot. If your battle takes place in your head, I suggest talking to a medical professional about your problems. If it's more of an external problem, I'd say to try new things and do something that you wouldn't normally do. Old ways won't open new doors, so I suggest you try something new. :)

I can understand what you are going through. If you're introverted like me, then I think you will need to get used to being alone and finding ways to enjoy it. I have no problems being alone because I've been alone most of my life, it's the loneliness that can be debilitating. For me, it is important to find ways to enjoy something no matter what it might be. What do you like to do??? I find that certain things like yoga, listening to music, getting out and about, or even reading a good book takes my mind off of focusing on being alone. I'm not good at relationships, and sometimes it is hard for me to be there for others when I have issues to deal with myself.

My best advice to you is something that I had to learn on my own, I am not sure how old you are, but these days you have to be your own best friend. If you sit and wait for others to be there for you or to even give you any attention, then sweetheart you will be gravely disappointed. I had to get a thick skin through the years after going through so much. I do not have any friends either, and it is really hard for me to be friends with women. Men make better friends, but then you have to worry about them wanting to sleep with you even if it is just platonic. When I look at how much having friends and relationships can put you through and the amount of hell you can experience from someone, sometimes I am happy to be alone.

I do pray though. One day, I would like to share my life with someone, however, what if that never happens??? I can't walk around depressed because I'm single, I have to learn to deal with it. I am unsure if you have children, but I have one son, and he depends on me, so I have to live each day no matter how I feel or what I experience. Yes, life is tough and it can suck sometimes, but if you try to change your mindset, you may just find some joy in something.

And please do not waste time worrying about having a boyfriend. Most men these days are not worth the trouble, I am just being real and honest. Yes, there may be some good guys left in the world, but you do not want to go through that hell of trying to find someone, it will break your spirit if you let it. I stopped searching. If it is meant for me to have a great man in my life, he will come. I don't chase and I sure as hell won't beg. After what I have been put through, I am happily single right now. So, stop worrying; whatever is meant for you when happen when it is supposed to happen. I have a powerful testimony as many have told me because I have experienced things that I never thought would happen to me, good and bad. So there is light at the end of the tunnel as they say, just be patient and always be aware of how you feel.

Best.