Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Is this loneliness that I am feeling?

runnindog
runnindog

I am askng the universe this question right now. 


I have been feeling anxious and fearful for the past few weeks. It feels like I have no one to turn too. I am all alone is this world. Sure I have friends and some family, but there is not that special someone that I feel I can turn too or rely on that is not going to judge, or abandon me. This is a horrible feeling. It is when I have these feelings of being isolated in my own shell that i begin to have cravings for cocaine and gay sex. And I am not even gay. what is up with that? 


I crave an intimate relationship. With a women. Love is what i need. I guess that i need to be able to offer love first off though. Sometimes I feel so selfless and giving of myself and then other times the neediness comes back. I do not like being needy for love. That is a lonely feeling. Good God is that an empty place to be or what?


I have been going through this emotional roller coaster for pretty close to 35 years now. PLEASE let this be the begining of a new chapter is my life!!!


I have been working quite hard and steadfast on this part of my recovery since I overdosed back in March. Not quite sure what I need!! I do know that I feel homeless. I like the expression "home is where the heart is"  Does this mean that I feel heartless as well?  At times yes. Hence the lonliness lol. Cool I just had an appifany.


I am 52 years of age and do not have my own home. Yet!! Heart first and a home will follow? Or would that be vici verca? 


Now I am excited to get myself a home. RV living here I come. 


Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
You get the neediness from a lack of self love. You don't love yourself first so you are looking for it in the people, places and things around you such as your idols which you say are cocaine and gay sex. Those are temporary band aides to the lack of love you are feeling. Covid has done that to many but there is an answer.

The best thing to do would be to get in touch with your Higher Power through Prayer and meditation. I highly recommend meditation. There are many who believe that the reason for covid is to make us stop everything for a few moments and get in touch with the God within us. It is there that you will find more love then you will know what to do with and it is there that you will find peace. There are many books available and many you tube tutorials to help you.

God Bless
Robofrogg
Robofrogg
You are trying to fill a hole inside of you from outside sources like drugs and sex. But they will never fill the hole because you need to fill it from within, by loving yourself. You need to learn to accept yourself. You are a unique human being and you have value. You need to realize that. The best way to do that is seek therapy. Well, I can give you other tips like journal, meditate, exercise, try to catch your negative thought patterns and change them—but really you need someone that can support you and guide you through this process step by step. Please, seek therapy! Also you may find solace in an addiction recovery support group. You should seek therapy, and also surround yourself with people that are going through what you are going through, who will love and support you.

Best of luck, friend. You are a remarkable human being, you have value, and you deserve love. That love has to come from you, first, however!
runnindog
runnindog
i thank you both for your support and words of wisdom.
This is not my first rodeo, so to speak. I have been in therapy for a good 30 years now- on and off of course, and have been to 5 different treatment centers for drugs and alcohol I have come a long way in these past 30 years and I am still here with my chin up for the most part. .
Thank you again.
I reached out to the universe and the universe reached back.
Hey I am not feeling as lonely as before. COOL!!
Prycejosh1987
Prycejosh1987
Its true on the message "home is where the heart is". In other words, the people close to you and in your heart are the people that count.
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