Loneliness Support Group
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Actually its my first post on this site . I am a 20 year old boy . I am a very introvert person who would never share his secrets to anyone but now it feels so hard and i can't bear the pain.
I fell in love with a girl 2 years back online. Well we dated for a couple of month and then i proposed her. She said she would love to be my wife . So we secretly made lots of plans about how we would live, where we would go for vacation , what would be the name of our kid etc,...
I was so serious with this relationship that i already bought engagement ring for her, wedding ring, wedding dress and many other gifts and sent her. But around 4 months back , she sent me an email saying its over between us and i must forget her. I thought she was just teasing me but then i was wrong. She really meant her words and we broke up. All my dreams were shattered. She said that i was her toy and she was just using me. I never thought a girl would use me like this. But still i cannot forget her. It seems as if a part of me has remain with her. i hide myself from the outside world and lead a more introvert life. I began writing sad poems. Gradually i began self harm and i even made a suicide attempt. Unfortunately, i survived. Still today, i cannot move on and life seems so difficult. I often find myself crying alone in the room. Is this normal.Should i accept this as my life... Is this my fate...
I fell in love with a girl 2 years back online. Well we dated for a couple of month and then i proposed her. She said she would love to be my wife . So we secretly made lots of plans about how we would live, where we would go for vacation , what would be the name of our kid etc,...
I was so serious with this relationship that i already bought engagement ring for her, wedding ring, wedding dress and many other gifts and sent her. But around 4 months back , she sent me an email saying its over between us and i must forget her. I thought she was just teasing me but then i was wrong. She really meant her words and we broke up. All my dreams were shattered. She said that i was her toy and she was just using me. I never thought a girl would use me like this. But still i cannot forget her. It seems as if a part of me has remain with her. i hide myself from the outside world and lead a more introvert life. I began writing sad poems. Gradually i began self harm and i even made a suicide attempt. Unfortunately, i survived. Still today, i cannot move on and life seems so difficult. I often find myself crying alone in the room. Is this normal.Should i accept this as my life... Is this my fate...
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I invited Bill to have dinner with me last Sunday. He wasn't willing to drive 7 hours to mid Michigan and teased me with his beautiful ribs!!! So, of course I ate alone and had cedar salmon
Sorry you went through such bad experience. You don't deserve that treatment. At least she didn't marry you and divorced you so she can get half of your things.
I have had my share of people using me for their selfish purposes and I know how much it hurts, especially us since we're not people who open up and share our lives with just anyone.
Don't lose hope that (a) you will forget her (b) you will get really angry (c) you will move on and get better. You have to be very heart broken right now. It will pass.
Please forgive yourself for allowing that nonsense in your life. You didn't do anything wrong.
Had you ever met this girl beyond the internet? Did you speak with her on the phone? Webcam? She might not have been who you thought she was at all. Don't throw away your life for a fake person who only used you. You're still young and there are plenty of decent, caring women out there for you.
There's always one good line of advice I like to share before anyone commits to someone, especially marriage; "Look deep before you leap". Meaning to really, really get to know a person. A few months and even a couple years is not enough time to know someone before attaching yourself to them for the rest of your life!
secondly, you need to find the strength to move on. its a waste of your time and energy to be holding onto an emotion for a girl who long since moved on. in the end the only person you are hurting is yourself. you are young, and have yet to truly live, its about time you stop feeling sorry for yourself and work on becoming strong. you already made the first step by coming here for support, i hope you continue to move forward. i wish you luck.