Yeppers all normal stuff just time to move on now! Hugs

Hi, Milo. I went through the same thing, but he would always send me emails or text me and check up on me. He also seemed jealous of I was hanging out with other guys lol. But now we hang out, get intimate, and we consider each other best friends and more. We are just not in a relationship right now, which hurts me, but I know neither of us are ready to be in a relationship with anyone right now. He and I are like two connecting pieces of a puzzle. No, we are like twin souls. Idk if that makes sense, but we are very close and connected, and we just care a lot about each other. I'm not saying all people's exes are this same way; I just don't think you should completely rule out any possibility for a second chance. But TREAD LIGHTLY. Just do your own thing, for you and you alone, and find peace with yourself. The rest will fall into place, whether it's a relationship with him or another.

thanks a lot. it really helps! hugs :)

You're welcome, Milo! Anytime!

Time is a great healer! And yes it is normal for your to remember the good times you two had and miss them..but if things were bad enough to split up then you have to move on alone for now and you never know when you will bump into the right person-who will treat you right all the time and those past memories will fade and you will have new ones-a lot of good new ones

Love transforms into many forms, and there are many, many living things on this Earth to love. You don't have to turn your love off, just love something else. Sexual/erotic love is only one form of love. Unfortunately, it's probably the most intense. Friendship, with children and animals, for example, is another form of love.

Hey Milo. Cheer up, you're not the only one. I too feel the same sometimes. I was in a relationship for 6 years and broke up about 7 months ago and still feel very devastated when i think about it. I sometimes blame myself for what happened but then i realize im not being fair to myself. When I feel lonely I tend to just shut everyone out. I tend to just cry my emotions out to myself. But i know this isnt healthy. I am slowly opening up to people about my worries and problems because its always good to know that someone somewhere is also goin through the same thing as me. You are not alone :-)

I so agree, princess. FRIENDSHIPS are so important, a cushion, when romantic love fails! Going into nature and deeply allowing yourself to think and feel in that natural setting is imperative too. Spending time in the deep woods places "things" in perspective.

I'm not too good with advise but I'd say, desserts as stressed spelled backwards is desserts, then move on. Remember, we only feel for those we let ourselves feel for. When we fall, we must get up, brush off the dust, and keep moving forward. Moving forward is what humans must do, we are emotionally like sharks, if we stop swimming, we sink. I hope this helps. :) Hang in there. Things will get better. Trust me, I am a nerd. We know things. :)

thank you all of you, i was really feeling bad right now. but that cheers me up!

I believe you are in love with what you had, but are no longer in love with the person. It's time to move on and let him do the same. No-one ever said it's easy to move on, but you are just going to stay stale in the position you are in, until you do so. The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears. It's time to find your rainbow honey.
Hugs Gramybear

"is it okay to move on and still love?"

Yes. What else is there. "Move on"...to what? Ultimately, we're all moving on to more love, in this world or the next. There's always more love. It may be different than what we had, but it's still love, and love is good.

Oh Milo, how I empathize. Ended a relationship just a week ago and though my head knows this was the right thing to do, my heart is breaking and bleeding inside and trying to keep a stiff upper lip. Of course, everyone's on the "it's all for the best" bandwagon. And the move on brigade. So hard and I know my situation is fresher than yours but I still feel for you and understand what you're going through. Just want you know there's someone out here that understands and hopes you can find peace with this. I am doing my best to focus on the positives and replace every negative thought about it with an encouraging idea about what good I got from this. Don't know what else to say so I'll just send *hugs*