I have tried match, eharmony, geek2geek which reeeeeally sucks, meetathiestsingles...they all seem to be a waste of time. or maybe it's just bc I suck. I wish u luck. being lonely can be ok fire a while but, it sure does get old fast.

Sounds like me yes it totally is the worst I been alone about eight years you?

There was a girl here who was also looking for love, I haven't seen her since we were on the old site but I remember her telling me she had been on dating sites but she had to go through 200 men to get one good one.

Good luck in your search

It really is a numbers game and an emotional rollercoaster all the way. I met all of my last 3 exes on those sites, although one relationship did last 8 years (2 too many, tbh). My most recent I met on tinder after about two months, and the ex before that took about 3 months (on Bumble) but I was pretty much on all the apps at those times. So stressful.

yes it seems like a waste but I am not sure what else to do or how else to find that one. I hope I don't have to go through so many people to meet that one special person, but I may have to so I won't go completely insane lol tears of clown thank you I need the luck thank you guys for listening

I know what you mean. It does feel like a lot of wasted effort sometimes. I try not to think about that aspect of it because it gets really depressing real quick, haha.

I will say that the one positive I've gotten from going through the apps is that I've become more confident in being myself and putting my 'real' self out there in terms of personality and things like that. Rather than some shiney dating app persona or something like that. For me, it helped relieve some anxiety knowing that anyone who responded positively was doing it because of who I really am. If that makes any sense. It made it easier to be open, honest, engaging, etc.

I do have that little boost of confidence I been trying to take better care of myself taking better pictures. It seems like everything takes forever and nothing is ever simple . I am completely honest in them I mean I am to old to make up stuff so people will like me if they don't like me then they don't I am trying to get almost to that point I don't care what any one thinks of me I don't know kind of hard t explain. thank you for listening and advice

I hear this so much. I started with the online thing a few months ago. It's really frustrating. Most women don't respond so it just feels like a numbers game for us fellas. I've met a few interesting people but no one that I could see having a relationship with. It's very weird trying to start a relationship online. I feel like the shared experience part is really missing and that hinders the whole online dating process. Of course I'm just me and that's all I can be. If someone likes it, then there ya go. So far, it's not really working. Also watch out for the catfish! They're everywhere in online dating.

Omg I know I've met so many scammers I wrote a story about it lol . I know how you feel . It is so much harder to do it online now any way especially because of the pandemic . I figured throw the right bait in maybe I can get something good like salmon instead of a mud fish sorry fishing anthology. but you know what I mean. I guess just look for friends and maybe that friendship will grown into something else. f not well you have one more friend maybe ? thanks for listening

I like the fish metaphor!
You know it's prob healthier finding a friendship that grows. My best friends are married and in the whole kid rearing stage of their lives. Don't have a lot of time for the widowed friend and his search for a gf, lol. I've been trying to expand my friends list, but man is it hard out there, especially this year.

Oh yes extremely hard unfortunately you have to be super diligent if you ever want to find the one I think Friends are the best way to go though.

I am going to show my age by wishing for the good old days. The days when you knew who you talking to. When you met someone by actually meeting them. In my field I see lonely people scammed all the time. Now I am one of the lonely people and it is scary.
I put up a singles ad for 24 hours I wanted to know how prevalent the scammers were and frankly how desperate I would be to fall for their cons. In that 24 hours. I had 2 women offer to move across the country to be with me. 3 in college that were about to start their finals and needed to buy their text books to study. 2 of them at least named colleges when I asked where they went to school. The 3rd named a private elementary school. Another just left her abusive husband and wanted to know if I could pay for her daughter's birthday so she wouldn't suffer. In all 8 women who all could have been models wanted nothing more than to be my significant other. I am a great guy but not that great.
How do you find chemistry through a text? How do I get lost in your eyes when you're no where to be seen? Am I just a dinosaur that doesn't know I am extinct?

It's definitely weird to try to connect through text. Like you all have said, you're lucky if you get more than a few words in reply, and you still kind of have to find a rythym if you do and then hope the other person is still interested by the time you get that far.

I'm lucky/unlucky enough to be in a smallish city a so there are a decent number of people, but lots of weird overlaps. For example, my recent ex knew or was acquaintances with 3 different people I had been on dates with before her. And then to make things even weirder, we found out our most recent exes were dating, too. Which is really weird, but I guess also makes a little sense? Either way, I was really hopeful I wouldn't have to go through the apps again. Ah well.

Omg I understand that. I wish there was just some simple way to meet people and know there real. I been talking to a guy hear an a guy there as friends, and then things are going well or so I think.. and they do their famous disappearing act. Sometimes I think I am better off getting a dog at least their real don't lie and don't disappear. I' am old fashion to I think it would be easier going back to letter writing like in the different world wars when you send letters home and you correspond back and fourth. There is so many millions of catfishing going on that you really can't trust no one. Your no dinosaur I feel that old to just so difficult to meet any one real sigh....

ppl disappear even if you're dating them!!! it's terrible out there!!! who can you ever trust??!! after a while it just makes you angry, bitter and jaded, and they wonder why we all hate men lol. I'm old fashioned also, and keep wishing it was the good old days when ppl had decency, morals, and an attention span, lol. and NOT seemingly endless options that always make them think there's always someone "better" out there. *eye roll*