i can understand what you are going through cause in my olde age i dont have any relatives, though i'm lucky to have a woman in my building who has helped me with my sickly cat; she and a bus driver i talk to, and my cat are my only friends.

i put various words into visuals of search engines, to create screensavers with quotes and images, with loneliness one of the quotes. one such quote is along the lines of "if you're lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company."

i try to understand people, too---but i spend more time, good or bad, trying to understand myself. "the unexamined life is not worth living", or some such quote from about two and a half thousand years ago.

don't be hard on yourself, be selfish instead, and figure out a way to be happy while alone, as hard as that is even for myself.

good luck.

It's hard feeling lonely. I have my friends but deep down I'm lonely. My friends are great but it's a temporary fix on happiness. I had one friend who I could go to with anything, but I lost her to cancer. It's hard to get that close to anyone else. To me this is the worst feeling.

hi everyone.....very pleased to see such soothing comments by Penntucky and JeanK to console Caesarx...i joined this portal just because my loneliness....being alone is not a problem but being lonely is the worst thing....Caesarx take care and be happy....we are here for the sake of each other....

Looks like we all.need friends i joined this site three days ago and I love reviewing messages. It makes me smile and not feel quite so alone .

You are not alone. My best friend of many years and I just split ways and I feel so lonely. I'm not alone in life. I have a wonderful husband and mother, but it's just not the same as having that friend who shares your interests and that you can talk to about basically anything. Sadly, I didn't really have that with her, but the illusion was there. I'm here to talk if anyone wants to.

Hey, ceasarx! Welcome in.
What do you say you try us? It's the internet after all, we're spread all over the world and it's possible one of us might actually get you. Hardly as good as a real conversation with a real person, but let's just give it a try and you might be surprised.
So, if you feel like it, tell us: what's troubling you? Do you feel nobody deeply understands you when you speak or is it more that you expect people to guess some things that shouldn't require putting down in words? Or perhaps you don't like to open yourself because the people you've met so far don't seem like the people who would truly get what you mean.
All of these are reasonable, but it's also possible that some times we don't give other people enough credit. Many people end up surprising you once you open yourself to them.
So, if you feel comfortable, please do try us, maybe you'll be lucky this time and one of us does get you! =)

I get the same feeling a lot! I go to social occasions to try and meet people and make friends but there always seems to be some kind of disconnect between me and everyone else in the the room