Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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waybackjack 01/28/2017

I had been looking for an affectionate but non-sexual relationship featuring companionship, some hugging, and mutual fitness pursuits. Most of the "candidates" bored the hell out of me, a few were poorly educated, and those who were interesting lacked the sweetness and easy-going ways of my wife. It's curious that the two most interesting ones surfaced within a few weeks after my wife's passing, at which time I had no interest in a relationship, for obvious reasons.

Best thing I could've brought to any such union would've been deep pockets and willingness to foot all costs, because frankly my personality has become taciturn despite retaining some ability to make people laugh.

koolman 01/28/2017

I'm sorry for your loss. God takes...and then He gives, within a few weeks after your wife's passing! Having experienced the loss of a loved one, someone very close to me, my brother, I can understand why you're not interested in becoming romantically or sexually entangled with anyone else right now...your heart is gutted, you're feeling hollowed out, in that dark, forlorn place. Just say to any new women "I just want to be friends".

koolman 01/28/2017

There is a Bereavement board here that is more specific to the grief you're feeling than this Loneliness board, that might be of further help.

Amaranthine 01/28/2017

I think many women will want more than this. You want companionship, hugging, affection but NON sexual. I think you're looking for a male friend (assuming you're straight). Why not just look for friendship but don't expect the hugging and affection, as a woman I'd want to reserve that got a romantic and sexual companion.
I think you're still grieving the loss of your wife. Take your time. Best of luck to you.

waybackjack 01/28/2017

Amaranthine, thanks for your input.

No I'm not looking for affection and hugs from male friends. At the risk of sounding sexist, it's just that women are more sincere at sympathy and empathy. My experience anyway.

But you may be on the money about my wife. The grief is under control now but maybe I'm looking for a close facsimile of her.

waybackjack 01/28/2017

Koolman, thanks. Something to think about.

Amaranthine 01/28/2017

You miss your wife, you said the other ladies are boring you , uneducated and lacking in other ways . Some poor lady might feel very shortchanged if you befriend her for affection but then nothing sexual. Unless you make it very clear that you don't want a full relationship. Or do you?

Aronia 01/28/2017

In order for a woman to give you affection, you have to give something back... so essentially, it becomes a relationship.
The closest thing to that is an online friendship.. everything else turns into a real relationship.

koolman 01/29/2017

Yeah, affection without it leading to sex (or deeper romantic love) will be a tough sell for any woman. Yeah, just be friends with a woman. If you need a hug here and there, hug her.

Debbalina 01/29/2017

Hell we should meet. Right now Im dating someone who is very into sex and I'm at a total loss for libido......its very awkward. But the closeness and intimacy I feel with him makes it worth it. Hard to get one without the other.

Veijo 01/31/2017

I too have lost my solemate (husband) an looking for someone to be just a friend. Someone to share time with,to laugh with an to just plain talk with. I had a wonderful husband. I don't need the sex part,but I do need hugs. I want a male friend who wants to be just friends,am I asking for to much?

Valioffire 02/01/2017

I to am up in age and live alone. I understand your desire to find a special someone who just wants to hug, snuggle and enjoy the company. We are human beings and touch is very important. A lifetime of bone disease made my life not what I would have wished. The need for a real hug can be so overwhelming that I'm realizing it's at times more important then food and water. I sincerely hope you get such a friend.

I'm new here and not sure over how it all works but if you ever need to chat I'll be glad to respond.

Bella47 02/01/2017

Don't give up. There are plenty of women who would like to share your company without intamacy. I definitely would not go to dating sites. It may be a little uncomfortable and awkward for the women knowing that you are recently widowed but they will become more comfortable in time. Do the things you enjoy and you may find companions doing the same things.

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