Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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I feel as if the loneliness is swallowing me whole

scarysanity
scarysanity

I'm new to DS but not to loneliness.  The hollow feeling I feel constantly makes me so sad and makes me shut myself off from the world.  It's like now.  Even though my husband is here in the house with me, I feel a sense of emptiness, of utter sadness and alienation.  Even when I'm with people, talking, I feel alone.  I don't fit in.  I don't fir in with anyone, anywhere or with anything anymore.  I hold in the tears because I don't want anyone to know just how lonely I feel.  I mask every emotion I have anyways so that people don't feel uncomfortable around me, but I'm tired.  I'm tired of hiding things.  I try to reach out to people, but there's hardly anyone to reach out to or they're not available to talk to when I need them.  I don't understand.  I never thought that a person could be surrounded by people and feel so lonely and helpless, hopeless too.  It's possible though!

Nev
Nev
Hi sacrysaniry. Welcome to ds. I have my lonely issues too. Somehow i used to feel different from everyone and people are not there when you need. I am working on those lonely feelings. To stay here at ds trying to help people also helps me. I have no friends but there are a lot of people around the world that needs help and if we give a little help we feel happy. I try to feel thankful for things i have too. You have a husband and that is wonderful, i am sure he has good qualities. Are you happy about your relationship? I try to feel this way about my boyfriend. I also try to find things that bring me joy. Remember when u were a child. What would make u smile? Think about it. U deserve to be happy. I will send u a friend request. I will be glad to have your messages. Hugs.
scarysanity
scarysanity
Thank you Nev! I'll have to think about what made me smile as a kid. Great question!
MendingAgain
MendingAgain
I feel this way sometimes, but since I joined a codependent group about two years ago, even though I don't talk to these people outside of the group, I feel some sort of connection, but I have been going for two years, and it's taken this long just to feel that I belong somewhere. It takes time, to find relationships outside of our immediate family, such as husband, kids, etc., maybe you can join a small group outside of your home like on meetups they have a lot of things, and I have gone to one, and I do recommend it, I have heard other people say that it works for them as well. You can even start up your own meetup group but there is a charge. I hope you get the connection you need, it does feel very lonely without one.
koolman
koolman
Is your husband sweet to you, shows you warm physical affection?
PigInSpace
PigInSpace
Loneliness consumes me and has gone for so long I don't know how to relate to people or especially have trust. I live in an older community/condo community and am one of the most young and can't afford to move and my beloved husband just committed suicide so their meanness is now crossed upon me exclusive. They make up fables of stupid and grandeur of slovenly ways. I used to be so popular in my career before my health failed. I have not had friends for many many years and now that Tom passed and I have no family I am like an old tree on a dirt road. I have a guinea pig and new dog Louie. I don't know how to trust people. Far too many bad experiences that override hope or desire for friends or living but still lonely.