Please don't give up on the things you really desire with all your heart. I feel that everything happens for a reason. That doesn't help though.
What I really want to say, is I am here to listen to you and give you support as you deal with these tough things. You deserve to feel good. You deserve to feel loved. You deserve to be happy. I want to help you find those things.

How are you doing

I wish we lived lots closer to each other.....hugs and arm around on your pocket in butt of pants! LOL

My thoughts and prayers are with you. For years i didn't dare believe I was put here for any reason other than to care for the rest of my dysfunctional family.

Once I did actually dare to imagine a life of my own, I can truly understand as I too wanted the hubby and children. For me also the children were not in the cards. Looking back , I believe that hubby and I did wind up together more because we did want to find someone too (But I think now it may have been more of a settling thing than true love.) We are still under the same roof, but for more than the last 10 years he has shut down (no affection, emotion, communication, help, or support..)

I agree with Jersey....don't give up on things you want so desperately with all your heart. I often wonder why God does not always give us our hearts desires. But I have come to realize sometimes His plans for us lead us on an indirect path (for me that path was filled with small tidbits of info that led me further toward the happier, healthier life......perhaps for you too......)

I do think there could very well be that someone to hold you close and take your hand......hang tight to your dream..... :)

Thank you all. I appreciate the comments.

I am so sorry, Mary. I know how it hurts. I am single too and have no girlfriend and kids too. Being single is really hard for some people. In this year, I have been feeling so lonely for not having a family (woman and kids). Life is so hard at times.

I am here for you if you need to talk, just send me a message......
God bless

I have 2 daughters (over 30) and a husband and I am so lonely. They only want the person I used to be when I was healthy. I was the one they all came to with their problems, happy moments. But now I need some help and encouragement, and it is not happening. So I guess I am telling you this so you will know when you see people together and they have family, they can be as lonely as you. I feel for you. It is very hard to get thru life being lonely and fending for yourself. I hope things get better for you.

I understand its not easy sadly being lonely is a double edged sword you long to not be lonely but when you are around people you find yourself sabotaging things when you have been alone to long. when I thought it was me I tried to find things I enjoyed to make time seem batter it worked alttle but nothing fixes it sometimes

I thank you all for your comments. They help.

Sadly..nobody mentions God. IF you truly allow God in your life, you will never feel.or be alone. I spend time at the food kitchen helping to prepare and serve meals. I also help at the VA, pushing wheel chairs around. You cannot believe how many people I have met....I'm no.longer lonely... Ron

A strange thing happens....the more of yourself that you give. The many more times over do you receive. You cannot sit around and expect.your life.to change..it will not. YOUmust.get out and make the changes...

I do get out. I work and have friends. They all have lives that are busy with family. I've volunteered too and still do things for a church group. It isn't that I don't know people, I am without the companionship I crave to share my life.

When you are helping others...do you LISTEN to their problems??? Within reason!! If you fill them with your issues you may scare them away... We all have issues, most people do not want to hear our problems, they are looking to have us help them.. I have had people who could not wait for me to show so they could unload on me. I now avoid those people, I hope that is not your problem....We all have limitations.........

@yorman1.....I do agree with what you say....the more you give, the more you receive....whether it is volunteering or simply being open and sharing, reaching out to those you see who are in dire need of simple contact or acknowledgement

And I do believe that God is real and without him I would not still be here, I am ashamed to admit that sometimes I cannot feel him so close. I will say, even though I am currently still "married" (with a warm body under the same roof) I understand exactly what Mary is talking about. .....That need (desire) to have someone to confide in....to come home to.....to cuddle, snuggle up in their arms....sharing all from the trivial details of their day to all this life does have to offer. In a woman's mind (imho) it is like we feel cheated if we are not lucky enough to have been blessed with this in our life.

Amen to that..merry Christmas to all and a happy and healthy New year...