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I Feel Abandoned...

Haru
Haru

There is someone I love very much (I will keep this person as anonymous as possible). Four years ago, I was at the lowest point I had been in so long. I wanted to die. But then I met him and he saved my life. I suddenly wanted to live more than anything. He was my whole world. And he still is. But he has become distant. He moved away to start his career and put together his life. We hardly ever talk. He makes me so happy. But he also makes me feel like the loneliest person in the world. However, he has done nothing wrong. He's just trying to get his life going. I don't know what to do. Should I let go? Should I reach out to him? Help me please...

Debbalina
Debbalina
" He has become distant. We hardly ever talk. He makes me so happy." This doesn't follow to me. It sounds like he makes you very sad. If he was your whole world at one point, then I presume you were at one time very close to one another. If someone's behavior changes that drastically, there is usually a reason. I say reach out and tell him how you feel. Be authentic. Tell him you miss him and wonder why he's fallen out of touch. Hopefully he'll answer honestly and give you some peace of mind.
Jamener
Jamener
I agree with what Debbalina suggested. Reach out to him and tell him how you feel, but make sure to not make him feel like it's all his fault. When you talk to him, make sure you remind him of how happy he made you feel and that you're sad that you've grown so distant. Best case scenario he tells you sincerely that he's sorry for making you feel this way and that he regrets growing so distant. Then, if he has a heart, he'll start reminding himself to make more of an effort to keep in touch with you. Worst case scenario, he deems you "clingy" and pushes you away. If it's the worst case scenario, you'll have some closure at the very least.

I don't know if you'd care to hear my story of a very similar situation. You can leave a reply if you do. It might help knowing someone else is going through the same thing? Otherwise, I hope for the best between you two.
Haru
Haru
Yes... he is definitely a person who acknowledges the mistakes he makes. He's like a guardian angel when it comes to making amends.
Jamener
Jamener
Then all the better! I'm sure reaching out to him will end well. Good luck!