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ts1050
ts1050

I came to the realization that I have a decent amount of male friends, as well as female friends, but I dont think its a 50/50.  With this in mind, I realized the girls all stick together at times and do their own thing because they relate to each other better and sometimes do different things than my male friends do.  On the contrary, my male friends are either introverted and often choose to be alone, spend time with other friends I am not compatible with, or only spend time with mutual friends who are gamers and play similar video games.  I know i do not fit either group (when they split up) because I've been in this situation before and realized the girls will all talk and be together doing their own thing, while the guys have their own groupchat and play video games together for hours.  Im not looking for help i suppose, Im just venting because Im just so pissed at the moment that this is my relational reality, as if I cant connect to any my friends at all, yet they all connect to mutual friends, based on stereotypical gender interests. I feel like if i ever hangout with any of them one on one or just with a couple, they will go straight to the gossiping or video games, which has happened already and I feel like I wouldnt do well with any one on one because of our differences.


ugh i just wish life would give in and cut some slack

Tlr22
Tlr22
I can totally relate. It sounds like you have outgrown your friendships. Unfortunately this can happen as we grow and change. I had to step away from friends in the past for this very reason. It's not that I had anything against them, I just felt that we no longer had common interests and I always felt like I was sacrificing who I was and the things I wanted to do to maintain the friendships. The trick is finding new friends with similar interests. They say "do what you love" and the rest will fall in place. Volunteer, join Meetup groups that involve things you enjoy, etc. Sometimes easier said than done though...
annettearizona
annettearizona
Even back in school I felt I didn't fit in..The boys didn't want me hanging around unless I was a girl friend-which I didn't want to be. ANd because I prefered to hang around the guys,the girls didn't want me hanging around them.So I "existed" .I still don't really fit in-who wants to,if you have to be someone you aren't. Be yourself and do for yourself-what makes you happy
Jillsaundars
Jillsaundars
Don't worry about it, I bet they've all learnt the stereotypical way of behaving so that they can fit in and hang out with each other. I doubt they care that much about each other and all of them are experiencing some kind of angst caused by the group.

Go find some people who relate in ways you enjoy. I hear some religions frown upon gossiping...

Or perhaps start looking for the similarities you have with people???? At some point we all go through a stage of hanging around those we are similar with with shared interests. Have you tried the activities your mates do? If there's really no persuading you to join in, then find people you do match with?

Don't want you thinking your different, I guess most people just do what everyone else is doing so that they fit in, you've refused to, that's the only difference