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HOw do I stop letting this jerk back in to my life

radrm
radrm
Every time i feel like its over, and try to move on i answer the wrong phone call. Seems like this guy only likes me when i drop him. If i want to see him he wont, if i want him to call he doesnt, but when i just say forget it, i'm done he will keep calling and act very timid, he wasnt timid when i wanted to see him, he was so strong and too busy for me. So how do i forget the little peices of goodness that was there once in a while, realize it will never amount to anything and dont answer my phone, dont let him come back and take over my life again. Dont change my plans to suit him. Its like i lose my life everytime, until i regain my composure, and get a clue, dump him, ignore him, then he is all up on my grill. what the hu??
I need advice on how to stick to my guns, stay strong, and dont think i cant live without this loser. please, help!! I'm so afraid i'll fall for his crap again.
17butterfly49
17butterfly49
Have you considered therapy for yourself? The key to staying strong in these situations is believing you are strong. Therapy can give you tools to have increased self-esteem and self-respect. You don't have to depend on anyone to make you feel important or loved. You can do it all own your own! You deserve to be treated better than this. Enlist the help of therapy and a friend to keep you grounded in reality.
deleted_user
deleted_user
All you can do is make the right decisons, one at a time. If you pick up the phone and he is on the other end, say "goodbye" and hang up. If he is on your front porch, shut the door and refuse to let him in. If he emails, texts, writes letters, don't reply.

Try to keep the unsatisfying aspects of the relationship and his personality in the front of your mind. If you start to feel nostalgic about what you thought were some good times, force some perspective on yourself and remember some not-so-good. Come back to DS and read your posts here if you need to.

Keep yourself busy and your mind occupied, with friends/family, work, volunteering, school, maybe re-enter the dating scene if you are up for it.