Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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jlou47 07/18/2011

i lost my wife alittle over 1 and a half years ago. I ve dealt with the loss but now i m trying to deal with the lonliness. We were together 25 yrs. It s tough meeting people and finding interests. Alot of the time when i m not working i spend alone and get angry and depressed because there s nothing to do or anyone to do it with. I am alittle too old (48) to be hanging in clubs or bars plus they really don t interest me. I m not looking for another wife just someone to hang with. you know everyday stuff like shopping eating out etc. It s really hard trying to adjust to this new way of living. I really understand the lonliness. It s mind numbing. Anyways I m glad I posted. I was on the GA group for awhile until I realized that one of the reasons I gambled was lonliness. Most of my issues are being dealt with by me and I ve learned alot about myself. The lonliness is the one issue which brings me down. I hope to post often to have you guys give me some imput and maybe me being able to give you some. Thanks for listening.

deleted_user 07/18/2011

A good place to go is join an all men's ministry called "Promise Keepers". There are millions of members all across the world. If u can get involved with men's groups, they always know of single women from their wives they can introduce u to.

jerycrkdwlr 07/19/2011

Sounds like the best freind was your wife like me and my wife who ive been with 25yrs also.Your on the other side of the U.S. from where i live in the north west.My wife works and i had to sale my dump truck buisness 2 yrs ago because of health and now diabled.Luckily i have 10 acres and two dogs to keep me from getting to lonely but i still have bouts of lonliness and a little week on self esteem.Hang in there and fill free to BS with me or others in this forum of support and freinships. Jerry

jlou47 07/19/2011

thanks for the kind advice. I ll check into promise keepers. It s good to know that other people understand.

deleted_user 07/19/2011

I am so very sorry for the loss of your wife.

After being together for 25 years, one and a half years really is not that long, eventhough I'm sure it feels like an eternity.

Have you talked to a grief counselor?

Sending supportive thoughts your way.

deleted_user 07/22/2011

I have been where you have been. I lost my beloved husband 7 years ago just like you we would have been together 25 years. I lost my mom March 12, 2003 after I buried her my husband was diagonosed with cancer three months after my mom died. He only lasted 9 months and died March 1, 2004. I lost my mom and then my husband almost the same day. We never had children it was just me and my husband we did not let too many other people into our lives, of course we had friends and family members but it was only me and him. After he died and the buriel I was left alone I will never forget I was not invited to a cousins wedding first cousin on my husband side I was the lonely widow. It was very hard in the beginning but it will I promise you it will get better you will never forget but you will make new friends I thought it would never get better how many times did I cry myself to sleep to have my dog lick my tears away. I did have a good job and got good advise I recently retired and have alot of free time I will see how you are doing remember its only been a year and a half my beloved husband died seven years ago I will pray for you remember you are not alone in this world you have this great forum and I will keep in touch with you god bless you and keep your beloved wife safe.

jlou47 07/22/2011

thanks efraim, your post really means alot. I can feel the same emotions that i m experiencing now. The lonliness is really tough and only people who have gone through it understand. I ll take your advice to heart. I hope it does get better. I understand the family stuff too. They just don t get it. Thankyou again for the kind words. God Bless.

deleted_user 07/22/2011

People would always say to me get out and meet new people its not like they lost their partner until you go thru it nobody understands what you are going thru, even sleeping on my bed I could not go to the other side of the bed that was where he slept, and going thru the personal belongings I still have a drawer I can not go thru that was his drawer, there are so many issues to deal with, I thought about moving but I moved in with him this was his apartment I moved in with him. I decided to stay where I am because the rents are so high. Do you have children I did not have children which makes it even more lonier I do have a dog. take care and I will write to you soon, please dont be so sad my husband used to tell this joke he was a great joke teller I will tell it to you. What are the three rings of marriage. 1, the engagement ring. 2, the wedding ring. 3. the suffering.

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