Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Mozzie97
Mozzie97

Just realized yesterday that my parents never really showed me love. They provided me a home and food and physical care, but almost never showed me affection. And because of that lack of love and affection I have extreme difficulty making more that a surface level friendship with anyone. I don't know how to care for a person or shoe love to another person because I was never learned how. I have a boyfriend for the first time in my life and I feel like I am constantly messing up the relationship. 

Community Leaderbobinmaine
bobinmaine
I think loving yourself first is a great way to learn what love is. If you can make yourself happy, then it becomes much easier to make others happy.

When you are accepting and loving of yourself, then you become like a magnate and draw others to you. Daily affirmations helped me alot. The "I am" is very powerful.

God Bless
Myfavorite
Myfavorite
I have had that same problem. Parents were distant when it came to physical touch or emotional support. ie. "showing the love". It just wasn't in them. Their lack of love and affection doesn't mean that you don't have it in you to give it to your boyfriend or anyone in your life. Think about the love you craved and try spreading your own around to others. It will come back to you. Start small with a surprise hug and an "I love you" to your boyfriend (if you've gotten that far). Make him some rice krispie treats or something when he isn't expecting anything. My GF did that stuff and I eventually wifed her up. Show love through your everyday actions and it will be ok. I mean you must be doing something right. You got yourself a boyfriend. Now keep him around if you want. Us fellas are not that hard to please, lol. jmo.
WaterBabe
WaterBabe
I too feel the pain of the lack of love demonstrated by my parents. I was also in the "scapegoat" role - everything was my fault. I have a deep sense of shame and abandonment because of my upbringing. It has been difficult my whole life for me to form deep, lasting relationships. The best thing I ever did was to join the group ACA which stands for Adult Children of Alcoholics (and dysfunctional families). I have gotten tremendous relief and support in the group as I am learning to love and take care of myself, so I can learn to love and care for others. My parents were not heavy drinkers but my family is rife with dysfunction. Meetings are online now due to Covid. Keep in touch! xo
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