welcome. I hear you. I'm married with 3 children almost 21 to almost 16. My friends are the parents of my kids' friends. I don't hang out with anyone. My closest friend is going to college so she doesn't have the time to go get coffee. That is why I have my friends here. They are my support system. They are the people I confide in

Hi Melissa, my first time on this site, I to understand, I had a traumatic event and have isolated my self in, moved to the country, it helped for a little while, but lost most of my friends and my children who don't understand. I will talk anytime, I think we can help each other.

welcome is FI finland? if so cool place to live or is it Florida? if so cool place to live too since it is warmer that my state....LOL

We all are here for you to get to know....hugs bill

try meetup.com too....it is better than you can imagine...

Not Finland, Florida. Maybe one day I can visit there. Hehe. It's nice for you all to welcome me. I became a grandparent for the first time and it is exciting, but over whelming. My oldest daughter lives in Texas, 1000 miles away. Finally I get to spoil a child without having to deal with the consequences. Lol

Sometimes I feel like this feeling of being lonely makes me a bad mother. Why should we feel lonely if we have 15 kids to tend too.?. But it I do like an adult conversation from time to time.

I hope everyone is having a fantastic day.

Hello from the sweat-box! I live in the sweat-box of Florida too, Pompano Beach, just north of Fort Lauderdale. Love the weather, in the winter and spring months anyway (in summer the heat and humidity are a burning, steaming sauna, but it's a great time of year to exercise and lose water weight through sweat, if you don't get heat stroke from the blazing sun), hate the traffic, the fact that there are too many of us here, and that so many of us are rude, selfish and inconsiderate. If I win the Lotto, I'm moving to Colorado, Wyoming, Arizona or New Mexico.

I agree with angeleyes, I came to this site to talk to people because I have so few people I can confide in in person. We're all here to laugh, cry, and vent with you.

Welcome. this group is pretty nice so I hope to hear from you.

I live in a valley and have to climb 50 stairs to get to the main road so I am feeling rather isolated. I too wish I had one good friend who would come over for coffee and we can talk.

I miss those days when I used to live in the states and talked for hours in front of my house.

man Koyu I could never live there....I would need an escalator to get to the road...LOL

I remember going to dinner with my Uncle and family in California and we took a ride on a sled that went down the hill to the restaurant....it was kind of like outdoor elevator but it went at angle down the hill not straight down and straight up...anyway that was a fancy shmancy restaurant that my uncle took us to...it was south of San Fran a ways but no idea where or what the name of it was....just a free meal for me as an adult at the time....was pretty fun...hugs bill

You don't understand why you are needing to socialize with other people?? Because you are human and that seems to be part of our makeup. ;) Welcome, you sure have an age span with your children. I would think like most moms you would meet other moms & couples through your children. Isn't there a park where you can take your younger ones to play? I imagine other parents would be there with there kids too.

I think it is your personity. Some people need more human interactions then others. If we do not have human interactions we will become carzy. I need alot of time alone. I do not need to talk, but I need touch, That is me.

Welcome Melissa, big hugs and nice to meet you!

billw, I think that was Shadowbrook in Capitola! Melissa, glad you found us and hope we can help, it's hard to meet new people to connect with, and I understand the need for at least one good friend. I'd try meetup.com, perhaps volunteering, maybe if there are any interests you have you can see if there are groups out there for those interests. I've met a few people through cycling, etc and while maybe not extremely close friends, fun to ride and spend time with...and it makes a difference

Greetings Melissa! Nice to meet you here because now we are your online friends! Today I was thinking about friends, and an experience, and I often make things or graphic designs for Pinterest. Well today I did one on Friends. I'm not sure if links work here, but here it is....
https://www.pinterest.com/pin/500814421039643457/

I forgot to say what I had wanted to say before I accidently clicked ADD post.

Today I was thinking about friends, and I was also lonely today, and my friend Spartaa just showed up. It was how I felt after one friend showed up unannounced. Anyhow, I was thinking all of the same things you said in OP. We're all not so different, but I do have to agree, it is difficult to make friends. Another friend said to me, "You have to make your own fun after a certain age."

So, without repeating what others have said about finding friends, what they said was good, even great. I always gravitate to Billwfriends, he seems to think like I do.

I only have 2 friends, they live far away. So I get it about living in a new place, state, city, town, alone. After we moved to Arizona, I missed my family acquaintences/friends in California. Badly. But it has taken me nearly 7 years to find a comfortable *life* being mostly alone here. The man, he works a lot so I am alone most of the day. He goes to bed early, again, I am alone after. I see him for maybe 2 hours, which I guess is better than seeing no one but I want a friend who I can meet and chat with for a few hours every week or so. That is hard to find. I've tried.
So, I create things, hobbies and Netflix series binge watching with exercise breaks for my health......

No matter what, it's hard to be alone. I get that.