People often don't return messages when they are depressed or overwhelmed. Be patient and supportive of them until finals are past and people are over it. Your suspicions might be correct, but they might not be. In the meantime, don't leave too many messages because then they might feel annoyed or guilty and then they will ignore even more. Now is also a good time to build completely new fresh friendships with totally new people, even those not affiliated with anyone else that you know.

It's better for your self esteem to not dwell upon the frustrating people.
Be kind to yourself.

I'm with you. By that I mean that I've been there. All I can say it to hang in there and don't give up. I know how hard it is to make friends so to say make new ones is disconcerting to say the least. I know you are just trying to hang on to the old ones. All I can tell you is that things do change. Keep trying to meet new people. Stretch yourself. Put yourself out there even if you feel you are making a fool of yourself. Because many fools have friends. You just have to meet the right people. A place where "differences are expected" is the Unitarian Church. I urge you to find the nearest one and try it. Good Luck.

My response might not make you happy but it's my experience so I thought I'd share.

Have you ever heard Dane Cook's joke about "the friend that no one likes"? It's funny, but it's sad, because that's me.

Don't know why, I've only ever been kind, always tried to be part of the loop but I was never REALLY included. I was a good friend, but for some reason they just didn't really like me. Never cared if I was around or not. Found out all this really mean and pointless stuff they said about me behind my back. They made fun of me just for being my complete self, my complete NICE, KIND, cheerful self.

At that point I realized that they weren't really my friends at all. No idea why I kept trying to stick around. I realized that I didn't belong with them and it was only making things worse the more I tried to.

I still don't have any friends really, except my boyfriend, and it sucks...but I'll deal for now, because there will be more oppurtunities. Once you're outta college and get a job you'll meet people, possibly make more friends. As for me, I'm leaving for school this fall. Going out of state. I really hope I meet some new people and find my place. I'll get a new job in some kind of social environment and hopefully meet people there.

Until then I just have to deal, but honestly I'd rather be alone than with a bunch of assholes who treat me like crap for no reason and make me feel bad about myself.

How horrible for people to treat brittbee that way. You should know this - throughout your life, friends become stronger friends. If you don't want to be alone today, do something like going out to craigslist and look for events. Sure it sucks to do those things alone, but it's amazing how you will meet new people and make new friends. I know how you feel. I have those kind of days too. Become your own best friend first, others will follow.

I only have 1 good friend and we don't see each other often due to her work. I too have left messages in the past to people I have thought were my friends, but after no answer from them I took the attitude that it is THEIR loss not mine, I am better off without them. I agree with the other posts, you will make new aquaintences and can then choose those you want to be real friends. Take care and remember you are worth being a friend to.

has this been a recurring pattern in your life so far?people crossing the street when they see you coming the other way screening your calls not answering them.everyone has done it anyone who says they didnt is a liar.You want to live a decent and honest life I take it then think of the freinds you have now and the choice you are making as a career who would you really trust with your life?the chances are you probably havent met that person yet. Did you see the film flags of our fathers?remember the guy who after all the heroics was getting married and didnt even have a best man,how sad was that true story?the point is its experience that shapes our lives not freinds dont put too much stock in nor confuse drinking buddies with genuine compadres.A freind is something much more someone who will confide in you when they are down and in return whos sofa you can crash on when your woman kicks you out of the house.Its a two way street but you gotta give it to get it, someone who will wish you well and never put you down or whom you never feel envy toward,its a rich life and you got all to come. sieze the day bro as self awareness is the only true friend you will ever have.