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Friend Troubles (over a girl)

ranias
ranias
Some of you might remember this story at the beginning of the year: (Needing people that don't need me) http://www.dailystrength.org/c/Loneliness/forum/21234193-needing-people-dont-need

I finally gave up a week ago on both a relationship and a friendship with a girl (Kat) that I've been obsessed with. Bad things were said on both sides. In my heart I realized that she just doesn't care about me enough, so I've stopped talking to her for good. Maybe a long time from now we can be friends again, but I'm not going to push anything.

Well, one of my friends (Vince) that are mutual friends with her was told about things that were said. He's mad at me, even though it doesn't involve him. He just blocked me on Facebook this morning. We were acting friendly towards eachother just yesterday. It seems petty that I am brought up badly in conversation even though I'm done with her.

I think I'm just going to not care as much as possible. I have other friends. Maybe they will both come around sometime. I just feel sad and lonely whenever people I like don't like me.

In other news, things seem to be turning around in my life for me lately. I'm about to finally start working soon after about a year of being out of school and unemployed. (Thanks to a good friend of mine. Yay good friendship.) And I have an Air Force test that I will take next month as well.
billwfriend
billwfriend
well things do seem to be turning around....with the new job and the idea of joining air force....

I would say to ignore the friend who you left behind Kat I think is her name and also since other friend decided he did not like you any more ignore him too....and it does hurt because it is rejection and that always hurts....hugs bill
peterthegreat
peterthegreat
I feel angry when people ignor me when I try to meet them. I think those people have no friends or date. Making friends is not easy.
Congra that you found work.
ranias
ranias
Thanks for understanding, Bill. Yeah it does hurt, but I'll just ignore them. I have other things going on to make me happy.

I feel the same way often, Peter. I can understand why they might want to ignore me sometimes, but I still hate that feeling.

To be honest, I'm feeling pretty lonely right now, but I know that she won't help that. I'll just talk to other friends to stave off this feeling, and go to sleep cuddling my pillow.
koolman
koolman
Yeah I remember the story. That "Kat" must be one hot, sweet girl! Yeah, it's rough when our romantic object of affection (obsession) doesn't feel the same about us, I know. Maybe our obsession is the very thing that scares them off. Play it cool, casual, don't be in any rush, for anything, with a girl. God knows there'll be plenty more of them, especially in the Air Force! And once you join the Air Force, or whatever this job is, you'll morph from unemployed, sad sack to highly-trained, highly skilled, happenin' dude with money and a career, a definite upwardly mobile path, a career which hopefully you'll enjoy, and which will quite naturally attract the ladies, because the ladies quite naturally like to be around a guy who's enjoying himself and likes to talk about that which he's enjoying. Fun, excitement and enthusiasm are attractive!
ranias
ranias
Kat's sweet sometimes. I guess I made her meaner. I'm thinking about her again, but I know she doesn't want me. She isn't good for me if she keeps treating me this way anyways. Her birthday is at the end of the month, but I probably shouldn't say anything.

Vince still talks badly about me and it pisses me off. Especially since I haven't tried anything since I stopped. I'm just not going to reply and report harassment whenever I happen to see him say things on social media.

Maybe I'll build my skills and try to date next time I move. I don't like most people where I live right now (Georgia).
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