Loneliness Support Group
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I'm not sure if this is just a vent, or asking for help. I just need to talk.
My sister has been in and out of relationships, this last one she was in since November when he got out of prison (he's on parol). She's 20, with a 3 year old son, and a 13 day old daughter. She treats her son like crap. And she said she wished she'd got an abortion for her daughter. We've been trying to get my nephew out for a while, she gave us her daughter the day she was born, never even looked at her or touched her. Well today my dad called her boyfriends parol officer and turned him in for a violation. Well my sister confessed to the officer that she's being abused and is scared to leave. BULLSHIT. We tried SO many times to get her out, there was one night she came over and said she's going back, packing her stuff, and will call us to come help her. THEN, she asked for "gas money".... we didnt hear from her for a week. She chose to stay. My parents both disowned her. Well today she had to move back here (boyfriend is in prison again) and everyone is telling me NOT to be upset. NOT to be mad. To "forgive her" and give her another chance. She's tried to kill me 3 times, she physically abused me, mentally, calls me fat, and a slut and whore. I tried to kill myself and she said she wished I succeeded. When she walks in the room, I literally FEEL the life drain out of me. I can't breathe, I see red, and I puke almost every time. I can't be here with her, I feel like I'm going to slit my wrists to be honest. And what hurts the most, is no one cares how I feel. My parents just welcomed her back with open arms like nothing happened. I'm so fucking tired of hearing "aurora this, aurora that." I'm going to lose my mind. I really am. I cannot live in a house with somebody I absolutely hate. Everyone is telling me to just give her a chance. But this is the third time she's done this. I can't do it anymore. I really really cant. I'll die.
My sister has been in and out of relationships, this last one she was in since November when he got out of prison (he's on parol). She's 20, with a 3 year old son, and a 13 day old daughter. She treats her son like crap. And she said she wished she'd got an abortion for her daughter. We've been trying to get my nephew out for a while, she gave us her daughter the day she was born, never even looked at her or touched her. Well today my dad called her boyfriends parol officer and turned him in for a violation. Well my sister confessed to the officer that she's being abused and is scared to leave. BULLSHIT. We tried SO many times to get her out, there was one night she came over and said she's going back, packing her stuff, and will call us to come help her. THEN, she asked for "gas money".... we didnt hear from her for a week. She chose to stay. My parents both disowned her. Well today she had to move back here (boyfriend is in prison again) and everyone is telling me NOT to be upset. NOT to be mad. To "forgive her" and give her another chance. She's tried to kill me 3 times, she physically abused me, mentally, calls me fat, and a slut and whore. I tried to kill myself and she said she wished I succeeded. When she walks in the room, I literally FEEL the life drain out of me. I can't breathe, I see red, and I puke almost every time. I can't be here with her, I feel like I'm going to slit my wrists to be honest. And what hurts the most, is no one cares how I feel. My parents just welcomed her back with open arms like nothing happened. I'm so fucking tired of hearing "aurora this, aurora that." I'm going to lose my mind. I really am. I cannot live in a house with somebody I absolutely hate. Everyone is telling me to just give her a chance. But this is the third time she's done this. I can't do it anymore. I really really cant. I'll die.
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A tree outside where I live is dying, seemingly from dog urine----with the bully in my building going out his way to not only have his dog urinate there but to have the dog urinate on the fence and sign I bought to try save the tree----and then slide the sign under my apt door.Turns out that was a TRIGGER for me----bullying and humialtion right out of high school. I didn't realize it at the...
Your parents are terrified for the lives of the newborn and the 3 year old, and have no say in anything. It would be great if you could quietly and calmly remind them that you're their childl, and you shouldn't have to take abuse of your sister, but they're possibly just walking on eggshells, trying not to make her mad so she will leave with the children.
Regardless of the mess, you can take care of yourself. You don't say how old you are, but if you can go to the library after school(?, or go anywhere that's safe and away from her, and get calm.
Regardless of how bad things are now, they can be much better for you, pretty quickly, and I hope that's the way things go.
These children don't deserve to be in a war zone with their mom back and forth and really not caring about them and fighting in the household. You can't sacrifice your education for your sister, and instead they should be in foster care and adoption. At least in adoption they have the chance to get a wonderful couple that would give them a great home and love them forever.
Return to school and try to resume a normal life. Don't let your sister change your life.
If she gets together with another loser, she can take the kids with her and the kids don't deserve that. She has the ability to take the kids unless your parents have legal custody of them.
your parents have already made it clear your sister is more important than you....maybe her having a kid is just an excuse for your parents; parents would treat her better no matter what.
lots of stories, every few months, of some convict killing an entire family. Here's one from 30 miles away from me:
http://www.mcall.com/news/breaking/mc-northampton-murders-michael-ballar20110517,0,1729305.story
your...lousy...parents should have never/ever had you quit school to take care of your sister's kid----THAT SAYS EVERYTHING.
my...lousy...parents had lots of money and kind words to say about all kind of bums---while ignoring me or treating me like crap, including not caring one bit that i dropped out of school.
YOU...will be stuck around bums if you don't get a good education.
eventually your brain will shut down to what is normal and good for yourself---and see everything through your sister and parents' twisted eyes.
get away from your parents and stay away----wish i had done that when i was 18; i ran away at 17, got dragged back, and life got worse....cause my lousy parents were the worst influence in my life.
join the army/navy if you can handle that---to 4ever stay away from your family, and find friends far away from them.
you can only change yourself----totally forget changing the people around you.