Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Hello everyone my name is Michelle I have not been on here in a long time but I just need some support because I don't know what to do anymore. I am a 31 year old that has anxiety I also have a learning disabilty which makes it difficult to be accepted and make friends. This is where it gets hard for me to where I am starting to suffer depression because my anxiety is getting high now. The friends that I have also have a learning disabilty and they live 30 minutes away from me. I have a guy friend coming from out of town this weekwho used to live here who calls me daily muliple times a day. Up until a month ago I was seeing him here everyday he is staying at our firends house. Keep in mind my friend that lives here I have always offered to help her out whenever she needs she doesn't drive so I help cause I just feel like a good person. She talked to him a month ago saying I was obessed with him which I wasn't he clearly calls me everyday. She complains to be about other people, I have been unvited to see him and the events they are doing while he is here then they invite me back and they uninvite me. She has even ended the friendship but we worked it out I thought but then days later texted me saying she is forced to be my friend. I realize I just not have someone like that in my life there is another friend when I go to visit who says the same thing she says I need to stop going down there after I put in hard work to help her out. My friends have never stood up for me. The reason I put up with it is because I don't have any other friends I have tried to go to meetings around me area where once again I wasnt accepted. My guy friend who is coming into town asked me out last December begging me to move to his state but then he didnt want to wait. I am so embarrest with my life I feel like I have no friends I am being forced to live somewhere that is not right for me I am not happy at all I have tried everything. I have never been asked out on a date and im 31 who has not had a boyfriend before and now I am losing friends. What have I done to deserve all this hurt. I realize this is very long I already put in a call to my therapist I am waiting for her to get back from vacation but I just could not wait.I have never felt so alone.
I wonder, about your guy friend, did he believe everything she said and choose her company over yours? I would hope that he would come to you with any concerns he has instead of listening to other peoples' gossip.
It doesn't feel like it now, but things WILL change. I wonder are you open to finding friends without disabilities?
I had a friend in another city I lived in who had a learning disability and never learned to read. She was in her 50's (I think.) She was very insecure and expected people to reject her. Michelle, let me tell you, this friend of mine was an absolute joy. She was sharp as a tack and always spoke her mind. She was also capable of deep compassion and deep wisdom. She quickly became one of my favorite friends to be around. She always got tearful and thanked me for being her friend. She didn't need to thank me! I wasn't doing her any favors! She was a beautiful human being who deserved just as much friendship as anyone else. No one should judge you or her or anyone else for having disabilities. I don't have a disability, officially, but I have difficulty finding people who "get" me. I never went to college. I have trouble with intimacy. It took me a long time to accept that "normal" people could love me, too.
I go back to Cheryl Strayed who asks, not just can you find someone to love you (whether friends or romantic partners,) but also do you love YOURSELF enough to ACCEPT that love? I think that's the big question at the end of the day. I suspect you hold back a lot. You have a lot of great perspectives, and a fun personality, and you hold it back because other people might judge you. Just a guess! Not that it's your fault, but, realize that people can love you exactly how you are. It's hard to find them sometimes, but they're out there.
I'm also 30, turning 31 this year. I moved to a new city and feel very lonely. I hope we can stick it out together <3