Loneliness Support Group

Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...

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Feeling Lonely and Co-Dependent

Nocturne
Nocturne

I've been in a serious committed relationship for 10 years, we both are only 23 and met when we were younger. I have been struggling with loneliness because I have some mental disorders that prevent me from keeping a job or being able to stay socially active. I've been distancing myself from everyone around me by accident, while I want to be social I can't bring myself to do so. It's to the point I feel like a dog just waiting for my owner to get home, the owner being my boyfriend obviously. I'm depressed and lonely all day until he gets home. Sometimes I won't eat or do anything until he returns, I just sit here or lay here. Seeing going out in public alone gives me bad anxiety, I don't like going out any place unless he's with me. No, he isn't abusive and it's honestly not his fault I'm this way. He pretty much just goes to work and then comes home, when he is home we do pretty much everything together. I'm scared what if something happens one day to him? I'm already alone and depressed... I feel like everyone forgets about me and that I don't exist. Even when I'm around others sometimes I still feel alone and empty.

SaraZando
SaraZando
OMG, I feel like you've invaded my brain and put my thoughts and feelings into your post!!! My husband is my moon and stars. Over time I've managed to isolate myself from all of my friends, though I don't know how the hell it happened. I'm struggling with infertility and a failed teaching career so I'm not exactly inspired to get out there and share myself and all my failures with people. I get anxiety attacks every single morning when my husband leaves for work. I honestly don't know why he stays with me, that's how little I think of myself. He is my everything and I'm terrified of loosing him to....whatever. I also fear that I'm going to self sabotage my relationship with him just b/c of the way I think. Like someday he's going to wise up and just leave. Ugh.
All of my friends have fallen by the wayside, busy raising families which I'm unable to do. This leaves a hole inside of me that no amount of drugs or alcohol could ever fill. WTF is my problem??
Thank you for sharing this. It helps to know that I'm not a total nut job. There's at least one person out there that's in a similar situation. ***SIGH***
SaraZando
SaraZando
I have very limited access to health ins. If you don't mind me asking & don't mind sharing, what are the labels of the mental disorders you're having to deal with? For a time I was able to access group counseling for borderline personality disorder, but I honestly don't know much about it.
Nocturne
Nocturne
@SaraZando That's the same here, I just started to isolate myself from everyone. My life is my cats and my boyfriend. I'm so sorry you're struggling with infertility. :( But I can 100% relate. I'm always scared he's just going to leave me because I can't keep a job and I feel like I'm holding him back. I keep trying and trying, but I fail every single time and I worry that it puts a strain on our relationship. No, your not a total nut job. Don't worry! Have you tried to look into alternative methods for pregnancy or possible adoption if you're both ready?

It's alright, I don't mind sharing at all and so sorry for my late reply. Sometimes I go inactive for a few days online because of my anxiety. But I've been diagnosed with Bi-Polar and PTSD, but I have really bad anxiety.
SaraZando
SaraZando
No worries. I sometimes disappear for weeks at a time die to depression and anxiety. Hubby & I are about to start attending an infertility group so I’m hoping it’ll help with my feelings of isolation and loniness.
We make a modest income so adoption $$ os not an option as of now.
Rt nowi’m studying Reiki, chakra healing & vibrational healing (music is my everything). I know my husband loves me and it’s my own self loathing that gets in the way. I often find myself faking happiness for him b/c of my fear of him giving up on me. It’s hard tho. You’ve got a cat lady friend in me, grrl.