Sorry to hear you can't rely on your friends Koyu. I have a similar reaction from people. They rush to tell me all their problems and difficulties but are not there for me at all. I don't know what the answer is, I just want to send you some support. I hope your health issue is not to serious. Good luck with it.

Hi Koyu. So sorry you had bad news about a health issue.
Also sorry you’re hurting at being let down by friends. You have been a friend to these people and it’s sad they haven’t been there for you when you needed it. That’s not on you. That reflects on them. I used to get very upset when friends didn’t support me the way I hoped they would, but now I try not to overthink it. They are busy, or forgot to reply, or something stressful is going on with them. Whatever. You can rely on YOURSELF.
As to how to be your own best friend. I’m still learning. But self care, basics such as eat well, rest, don’t push yourself too hard. Relaxation. Self respect. Why not treat yourself to an indulgent day. Eat your favourite food/music/movies or going to a favourite place.
Take good care.

I have the same problem with one of my cousins. We were so close (well I thought we were) I’d do anything for her I always put her first, but when I was going though something she was never there. She only needs me when she’s lonely I hate it and I always go when she calls.
I completely understand what your going through and if you need someone to talk to I’m always here. Take it one day at a time.

One thing about the internet-is that you can share whatever you have on your mind without physically having to be judged

Im so sorry. My "friends" suck too. I was I was in a car accident and texted them I was in the ER. This was in a group text we have ongoing between all of us. No one responded. It is a horrible feeling. I have even asked for prayers about things and no responses.

Koyu, this post is a whole year ago.

I know the feeling,it's one thing for them to share things but some people aren't willing to do the same in return

Don't take it personal, unfortunately there are uncaring idiots like that out there.but you keep lending an ear to people and you can always vent here without being ignored

Hello everyone ,

I know how you all feel if it's not friends it's family you go out of your way checking on things are and if well you text and call and what do I get back nothing I've not been well and both of my brothers don't even call me and don't give a dam about me it's like I'm the black sheep of the family .