wow do you walk with head up or down? when I was in early college years my head was down never looking at the people walking by for more than a second...someplace along the line I realized I was doing the looking going past without looking...so I decided to hold my head up and see people as I passed....it lept me into new hieghts...sometimes we forget that others may be lonely too....we pass those lonely when our head is down and enough good people pass us by in a day that we could engage in some sort of talk/flirt or whatever....I want more of that now from others but would participate with any who did for sure....

I think the trick is that you have to be ok being with yourself before someone will enter your life... it does take time, but your young enough..it will happen. Just stay focused on taking care of you!!!

Yes hold your head up high and think about that you have a life time to deal with. You need to get thru college and work on taking care of yourself. When that special someone comes into your life you will be ready...

Are you shy? You mentioned that you don't go to many places, so people are not going to magically appear in your life if you don't reach out. Maybe you mean that you end up not going places? Or do you isolate yourself?

Also, a lot of people love to brag about "what a great social circle they have". A lot of them are full of it. They might be lonelier than you feel. Have you tried making your acquaintances your friends?

Hi Mas;

I agree that if you feel good about being with you, others will want to be with you too. Others that will really matter that is. I have found that sometimes its easier to let yourself feel the emotion rather than try to block it. Trying not to feel takes a lot of energy. There is nothing wrong with quiet and shy!

Thanks for all of the replies.
For the most part I keep my head up and I'm pretty easy going with eye contact. At times I can be really shy, though. I tend not to talk much at all unless others talk to me first,
Also, I feel kinda weird going to places by myself, like movies or sporting events. I guess I feel that people might think I'm an outcast or something.

Try a bit of "practicing." When you go to the store...the library..anywhere, lol, just strike up a conversation of a few words...like the weather...just about anything will do. You will be surprised by how much of a response you get. People don't take the time to chit chat these days. Most people are worried about mortgages and bills and how they are going to get through the winter...not so much making friends. So don't take things personally.
Have you noticed others who don't seem to have friends? They may be just as shy as you and would welcome the opportunity for a new friend. Perhaps just saying hello would boost both your spirits. You will be amazed at what's out there if you just extend yourself a bit further than you think you can. Most people would welcome some interest. Those who would not are not worth your time, anyway.
I pray you'll be able to reach out and that others will reach back.
Am glad you are here.
Huggss to you.

I have felt like that at times, but it takes time patience and effort for real good friends to come by.

College is the most awesome place to meet people! Have you joined any campus groups? Find out what interests you and join in with others who share your same interests, you'll have friends in no time. Increases the possibility of finding girls to date as well. The world is your oyster right now - take advantage of where you are! Good Luck!

You remind me of myself. How I envy the people who find it so easy to chat with just anyone about just any old thing. Me? I just can't. If someone starts a conversation, I feel ok jumping in with a comment, but I never seem able to find anything clever or witty or interesting to start a conversation. And most people I know overlook me when they want to talk, because they think I'm just not a talker.

It was hard, but I forced myself to make opening comments to a few people in my office, the other quiet people that don't seem to be in the popular chatty class. It worked! There are now several people to whom I can talk with a fair amount of ease, and one whom I eat lunch with now and then.

Not exactly a wild social life, but so much better than where I was! And being as the change isn't radical, it's a change I can sustain!

Hang in there. You can do it.

I have been experiencing the same thing. I've gotten more used to it I've noticed, I've started to accept the fact that I'm kind of a loner. Sometimes I get so frustrated at the fact that I can't make friends easily. But I know that I'll have to keep trying somehow. I know I may not be able to offer you advice on how to overcome this but know that you arn't alone in this experience. I'm here with you.

Peace my friend ^_^