Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Not even sure what to write..... It has been a long road for me and it just never seems to get better. I can say being alone sucks and it seems worse when you realize who your true friends and family really are, but what do you do when you realize there is no one there for you? I know people say "Don't be negative around other people because you will never meet anyone who wants to be with you". Ok.. I get it but what do you do when you put on that smile and facade and meet someone and then later they tell you "I wish you would said what you were going through when we met...you have too much baggage, you seem toxic (and the best one) I never would have gave you my number if I had known what you have been through". How does a guy bounce back from that on top of recovering from truama? Are women today really this way? Don't believe in love, homelife, kids etc???? I don't even know if anyone is gonna read this, at least I got it off my chest.....
"Oh you went through that, then I can't be with you" .. it's a line of bullshit, I've heard it before myself.
I am in a similar situation as you, pretty alone in the grand scheme of things. Too much past baggage and trauma to ever be worth loving (according to one person I loved dearly).
I totally get what you're saying. But don't let your head lie to you. You're a valuable person and anyone who deserves to know you, the honest deep down true you, and to love you, will help you hold that so called baggage and lighten the load, especially on days you feel so heavy.
I'm hoping to find that myself someday. My arms are real tired from all this luggage. Hugs!
I don't think it is necessary to put on a smile and facade when meeting new people with the aim of a possible relationship. Nothing is more telling about who a person really is than what they do with their baggage.
Do they acknowledge the baggage, unpack as much as possible and store the empty (or near empty) luggage in a closet? Do they insist in lugging the baggage around with them constantly, asking others to go thru the contents on a regular basis. Having some baggage is ok as long as you don't expect others to carry it for you.