Loneliness Support Group
Loneliness is an emotional state in which a person experiences a powerful feeling of emptiness and isolation. Loneliness is more than the feeling of wanting company or wanting to do something with another person. Loneliness is a feeling of being cut off, disconnected and alienated from other people. The lonely person may find it difficult or even impossible to have any...
Yesterday and most of today I felt like I was in a crisis. I was crying all night, was unable to sleep, and most of the day I spent feeling very sad, depressed and lonely.
I haven't fell like this ever. I am not a person who cries very easily, but I felt like I couldn't stop crying.
Then I decided to see if I could call anyone to talk. As I went through my cell phone contact list, I realized that there were way too may names of people that for some reason or another have disappeared from my life.
Instead of calling, I decided to go over the list, identify those that I haven't heard of in a while (some over a decade) and write a letter to each one of them.
I wrote ten letters. Only one of them was to a person that I stopped calling for no apparent reason. Another I decided to stop talking because his life seem to revolve around arguing over money with his family and hiring prostitutes. The rest are people that for no apparent reason just stopped talking to me.
On each letter I expressed exactly how I feel, the pain that I feel for being shunned by them, asking why, stating that I'd like to know if I have done anything wrong, and finally letting go of each one of them.
What a mood changer that was! The tears stopped; it felt like cleaning house. Purging old feelings and longings for people who may or may not be there for me ever felt really good.
I still feel sad and lonely, but no longer in crisis. I feel like this has been a great first step, making room for new beginnings in my life.
I do feel sad and lonely, but I also feel hopeful. I want to heal from this loneliness.
So I'd like to hear comments from others regarding what/who to let go in order to make room for new things/people. I am letting go of those ten people. In the following week, I'll be looking at habits or anything else that's in the way. What will be your endings and beginnings?
I haven't fell like this ever. I am not a person who cries very easily, but I felt like I couldn't stop crying.
Then I decided to see if I could call anyone to talk. As I went through my cell phone contact list, I realized that there were way too may names of people that for some reason or another have disappeared from my life.
Instead of calling, I decided to go over the list, identify those that I haven't heard of in a while (some over a decade) and write a letter to each one of them.
I wrote ten letters. Only one of them was to a person that I stopped calling for no apparent reason. Another I decided to stop talking because his life seem to revolve around arguing over money with his family and hiring prostitutes. The rest are people that for no apparent reason just stopped talking to me.
On each letter I expressed exactly how I feel, the pain that I feel for being shunned by them, asking why, stating that I'd like to know if I have done anything wrong, and finally letting go of each one of them.
What a mood changer that was! The tears stopped; it felt like cleaning house. Purging old feelings and longings for people who may or may not be there for me ever felt really good.
I still feel sad and lonely, but no longer in crisis. I feel like this has been a great first step, making room for new beginnings in my life.
I do feel sad and lonely, but I also feel hopeful. I want to heal from this loneliness.
So I'd like to hear comments from others regarding what/who to let go in order to make room for new things/people. I am letting go of those ten people. In the following week, I'll be looking at habits or anything else that's in the way. What will be your endings and beginnings?
You took action!
I let go of a so-called friend just recently. Maybe the emptiness that is leaving is where I can put one or two people new. (My therapist says I should be meeting new people.)
There is more but will send this for now.
I've been racking my brains as to why certain "friends" have stopped calling me for no apparent reason. Thinking over & over what I may have done and even hoping that one day they will call or show up. But now I say to myself, "I don't give a damn". I'm taking the Oprah approach.
Oprah Winfrey had some issue with her friend Iyanla. Oprah found out that Iyanla was planning to resign from the Oprah Winfrey Show. So, Oprah fired Iyanla before she could resign. Oprah's words were, "I did that to show her, I don't need her, if she doesn't need me". To me that shows strength and independence.
Since I had a baby, which was 9 months ago, my friend hasn't dropped by once to see my son & has stopped calling. I've stopped calling her also, so , I'm just showing her how much of an importance she is to me like I am to her. She should now consider us even. And life goes on.........Let's keep it moving.